Bad advice

My husband has been cheating, lying and disconnected from me for ten years. We recently moved back in together. My mother said, "You should be doing the cooking and house work, not him. That's your job as a wife." Really mom? That is all I've been doing for 24 years and look what I got! I did everything I thought was right and godly but I got my heart smashed into a million pieces and my marriage is hanging by a thread even after EMS Online. He still with holds info, flirts with Co-workers... He doesn't say say the words of "just get over it already" but when he says "I don't think I can deal with you being upset over my behavior "that is what I feel he is saying. God is helping me through this journey and I need my husband to help me also.