As the unfaithful wife, I know where your wife is at. That one foot in one out the door is where I was a year ago today! As I look back and stop to see how I reacted I realize how selfish and unloving my actions were! The only way that she will ever see the damage she has caused/is causing is to cut ties with the AP. Completely! While I kept communication lines open with my AP I couldn't see beyond the length of my outstretched hand! But, a few months after severing any and all communication and doing the EMS online, things began to clear up. Right now she's living in a "fog" or a dream life, she has the AP which is the pretend life she's living and then you and your family which is reality. Sadly, she can't truly see the damage her actions are causing you and your children.
A year later, I have serious regrets over my actions. I cannot believe I was that person! I cannot believe that I listened to the AP's smooth talking and lies. When you are in the affair you think the world of your AP, you think that all he is saying is truth when majority of what he is telling you is just a lie. It's sad that after all these years I would have fallen for some of the oldest tricks in the book. I don't know your wife but I do know where I stood just twelve months ago.
Is everything better? Is our marriage completely restored? Sadly, no. But it doesn't change over night. I realize that I am the problem. It is my own insecurities and selfishness that drove me to do the unfathomable!
I hope and pray that she sees the light. Hang in there!
I am so sorry
As the unfaithful wife, I know where your wife is at. That one foot in one out the door is where I was a year ago today! As I look back and stop to see how I reacted I realize how selfish and unloving my actions were! The only way that she will ever see the damage she has caused/is causing is to cut ties with the AP. Completely! While I kept communication lines open with my AP I couldn't see beyond the length of my outstretched hand! But, a few months after severing any and all communication and doing the EMS online, things began to clear up. Right now she's living in a "fog" or a dream life, she has the AP which is the pretend life she's living and then you and your family which is reality. Sadly, she can't truly see the damage her actions are causing you and your children.
A year later, I have serious regrets over my actions. I cannot believe I was that person! I cannot believe that I listened to the AP's smooth talking and lies. When you are in the affair you think the world of your AP, you think that all he is saying is truth when majority of what he is telling you is just a lie. It's sad that after all these years I would have fallen for some of the oldest tricks in the book. I don't know your wife but I do know where I stood just twelve months ago.
Is everything better? Is our marriage completely restored? Sadly, no. But it doesn't change over night. I realize that I am the problem. It is my own insecurities and selfishness that drove me to do the unfathomable!
I hope and pray that she sees the light. Hang in there!