My situation is a very complicated for many reasons - including the fact that we were separated when he had the affair.
I believe he is a narcissist. He is emotionally & verbally abusive and constantly devaluing me.
I moved out in hopes that he would finally agree to go to counseling. Nothing changed, in fact he got worse - so I told him I was “done”.
But when we started seeing each other again - having unprotected sex - he lied to me about not having been with anyone else. He made me believe that he wanted to work on things and go to marriage counseling. He was seeing us both for over a month before I did some detective work and found out about her.
He then decided to go public with her after I found out. Showed no remorse - told me that we were not together.
It took several months for him to finally apologize and say that he wanted to go to counseling. We’ve seen several counselors and nothing has changed.
Waiting for Remorse
My situation is a very complicated for many reasons - including the fact that we were separated when he had the affair.
I believe he is a narcissist. He is emotionally & verbally abusive and constantly devaluing me.
I moved out in hopes that he would finally agree to go to counseling. Nothing changed, in fact he got worse - so I told him I was “done”.
But when we started seeing each other again - having unprotected sex - he lied to me about not having been with anyone else. He made me believe that he wanted to work on things and go to marriage counseling. He was seeing us both for over a month before I did some detective work and found out about her.
He then decided to go public with her after I found out. Showed no remorse - told me that we were not together.
It took several months for him to finally apologize and say that he wanted to go to counseling. We’ve seen several counselors and nothing has changed.
He denies that it was even an affair.