Found out a month ago and husband can't tell me why. He knows that I need to move past his affair with his sugar baby. He's not happy and I feel like I lost him. He doesn't resemble the man I married. He loves her, but she is married. They have been together for three years. He cheated in plain sight. The cell phone bills. I never checked them. I paid them. I never had a reason to review them. When confronted, he said he believed that the relationship would fizzle out and no one would ever know. I asked him which relationship he was referring to. I know now, that it's me and I should act my age and move forward. He wants to leave. He won't go on his own, which I don't understand? He wants me to throw him out. How many hints about moving out, do I take action? I'm so confused and sad. He's no longer emotionally attached to me or our marriage, but I keep telling him that it's worth it. I can tell. He's given me every reason why he wants to leave me, and our marriage. I feel like he is going through the motions of counseling. He is just no longer interested in me and is ready to go. I'm making it worse because I asked questions, he cares not to answer. I am to give him space so he can decide if he can love me again. I'm not sure what to do except decide to stay married each day and pray for him and for me. He does not know why he decided to move through his affair, but he is hoping that counseling will help him get a better understanding of his decisions. I'm in the holding pattern, and after three years with someone else, and feel like I am being re-interviewed for my place in his marriage. I can't compete with her because she is 10 years younger and far prettier then I will ever be. He still wants her. I am alone.
Devastated and Making things worse
Found out a month ago and husband can't tell me why. He knows that I need to move past his affair with his sugar baby. He's not happy and I feel like I lost him. He doesn't resemble the man I married. He loves her, but she is married. They have been together for three years. He cheated in plain sight. The cell phone bills. I never checked them. I paid them. I never had a reason to review them. When confronted, he said he believed that the relationship would fizzle out and no one would ever know. I asked him which relationship he was referring to. I know now, that it's me and I should act my age and move forward. He wants to leave. He won't go on his own, which I don't understand? He wants me to throw him out. How many hints about moving out, do I take action? I'm so confused and sad. He's no longer emotionally attached to me or our marriage, but I keep telling him that it's worth it. I can tell. He's given me every reason why he wants to leave me, and our marriage. I feel like he is going through the motions of counseling. He is just no longer interested in me and is ready to go. I'm making it worse because I asked questions, he cares not to answer. I am to give him space so he can decide if he can love me again. I'm not sure what to do except decide to stay married each day and pray for him and for me. He does not know why he decided to move through his affair, but he is hoping that counseling will help him get a better understanding of his decisions. I'm in the holding pattern, and after three years with someone else, and feel like I am being re-interviewed for my place in his marriage. I can't compete with her because she is 10 years younger and far prettier then I will ever be. He still wants her. I am alone.