My wife and I have been married for 12 years. I grew up in a home where anger was the only permissible emotion. She grew up in a home of neglect where both parents were using drugs. I have been unloving and unkind for a very long time. I had an affair 6 years ago. She recently had an affair, and has also started online dating. We talked about reconciliation, and I started making positive changes for myself and our marriage. She says she wants to reconcile, but after returning from a work trip, I discovered she is continuing the affair through online dating, and what else, I don’t know. She is very resentful for the years of my shortcomings and failures. It feels like a small breath will extinguish the ember that is our marriage.
Desperate for Change
My wife and I have been married for 12 years. I grew up in a home where anger was the only permissible emotion. She grew up in a home of neglect where both parents were using drugs. I have been unloving and unkind for a very long time. I had an affair 6 years ago. She recently had an affair, and has also started online dating. We talked about reconciliation, and I started making positive changes for myself and our marriage. She says she wants to reconcile, but after returning from a work trip, I discovered she is continuing the affair through online dating, and what else, I don’t know. She is very resentful for the years of my shortcomings and failures. It feels like a small breath will extinguish the ember that is our marriage.