None of the points in both sections are difficult to understand. Following the guidelines may be harder but certainly not impossible if we try to be careful, as I am working hard to do in these early days. I am very hurt and I have not yet decided to stay, he has yet to fully comprehend or openly discuss the whole story, some defensive behaviour and some avoidance to complete disclose. Almost as if he's holding on to something sacred and doesn't want to lose it by sharing it with me, very painful but I have the heart condition to be patient, we have a family. I have chosen to remain patient because it took eight years to get us to here, it will take time to salvage anything that may be salvageable. I am hopeful and open minded, I would recommend open minds to any hurt spouse, particularly if children are involved, careful not to abandon the relationship for the sake of abandoning and no other good reason. Take the time to ascertain whether it's still worth saving. Never a great idea to make huge, life-altering decisions whilst angry and in pain. We put pressure on ourselves to reach a resolution hurriedly but if it isn't required to speed through it, please be gentle with your pace. I am so grateful for the guidance of such articles and for any help I can glean from anywhere that will assist me to walk the best path for us as a family. As I said, early days so it's hard to tell but I accept people make mistakes and I also have a responsibility for the breakdown. Let's all treat one another with grace and try to remember what brought us together in the first place, distant as it may feel today, it may be what keeps us moving forward and growing from our pain. I wish everyone going through this experience a steady and satisfying return to joy. May your families prevail. xx
Sense should prevail...
None of the points in both sections are difficult to understand. Following the guidelines may be harder but certainly not impossible if we try to be careful, as I am working hard to do in these early days. I am very hurt and I have not yet decided to stay, he has yet to fully comprehend or openly discuss the whole story, some defensive behaviour and some avoidance to complete disclose. Almost as if he's holding on to something sacred and doesn't want to lose it by sharing it with me, very painful but I have the heart condition to be patient, we have a family. I have chosen to remain patient because it took eight years to get us to here, it will take time to salvage anything that may be salvageable. I am hopeful and open minded, I would recommend open minds to any hurt spouse, particularly if children are involved, careful not to abandon the relationship for the sake of abandoning and no other good reason. Take the time to ascertain whether it's still worth saving. Never a great idea to make huge, life-altering decisions whilst angry and in pain. We put pressure on ourselves to reach a resolution hurriedly but if it isn't required to speed through it, please be gentle with your pace. I am so grateful for the guidance of such articles and for any help I can glean from anywhere that will assist me to walk the best path for us as a family. As I said, early days so it's hard to tell but I accept people make mistakes and I also have a responsibility for the breakdown. Let's all treat one another with grace and try to remember what brought us together in the first place, distant as it may feel today, it may be what keeps us moving forward and growing from our pain. I wish everyone going through this experience a steady and satisfying return to joy. May your families prevail. xx