You're right. "Good enough" is settling, resigning yourself to accepting that, if your relationship stalls in its recovery, that means it's as good as it'll ever be, and you shouldn't expect more. I refuse to accept "good enough". If he can't continue to prioritize making me feel safe and loved again, then I'll stop prioritizing our relationship, and leave. For most of this post-affair period, I've felt that I'm not good enough for him. Now I'm reaching a point where I'm wondering if he's good enough for me.
Settling
You're right. "Good enough" is settling, resigning yourself to accepting that, if your relationship stalls in its recovery, that means it's as good as it'll ever be, and you shouldn't expect more. I refuse to accept "good enough". If he can't continue to prioritize making me feel safe and loved again, then I'll stop prioritizing our relationship, and leave. For most of this post-affair period, I've felt that I'm not good enough for him. Now I'm reaching a point where I'm wondering if he's good enough for me.