What am I supposed to do? At this point, I’m still married only for my children. My feelings towards my spouse have changed. I found out the end of May that he was having an affair. He has cheated on me before as well. We have been married 13 years, and he confessed that throughout our marriage he has hit on other women and gotten their phone numbers. He had secret phones on several occasions to talk to other women. He lied to me for almost 2 years about sleeping with other women, and I knew in my heart there was more than what he had told me at the time. He says he’s sorry and wants to work things out. I’m just so unhappy and things are not getting easier. If he is a habitual cheater, is it possible for him to ever change? I’m so worried about him hurting me and my kids again! I’m so not in the mood for Christmas or anything else anymore. I’m sad all of the time. He is doing counseling, but how do I know he’s committed or just trying to make it better for now? Please, someone tell me whether I’m supposed to stay in this marriage just for my kids, or is it time to let go?
Re: I still don’t know whether to stay or go
What am I supposed to do? At this point, I’m still married only for my children. My feelings towards my spouse have changed. I found out the end of May that he was having an affair. He has cheated on me before as well. We have been married 13 years, and he confessed that throughout our marriage he has hit on other women and gotten their phone numbers. He had secret phones on several occasions to talk to other women. He lied to me for almost 2 years about sleeping with other women, and I knew in my heart there was more than what he had told me at the time. He says he’s sorry and wants to work things out. I’m just so unhappy and things are not getting easier. If he is a habitual cheater, is it possible for him to ever change? I’m so worried about him hurting me and my kids again! I’m so not in the mood for Christmas or anything else anymore. I’m sad all of the time. He is doing counseling, but how do I know he’s committed or just trying to make it better for now? Please, someone tell me whether I’m supposed to stay in this marriage just for my kids, or is it time to let go?