What is the normal time period for my spouse to "get it", and begin to have empathy and compassion? It has been 7 weeks since D-Day and he is still angry and indignant whenever it comes up. He has become obsessively secretive with his phone, and laptop. Hiding his phone from sight at all times, and hiding his laptop in a lock-box in the basement. He says that OW is only a sexual partner whom he likes very much, but I have been hearing about her since we met. He says She is so much fun, and smart, and sexually liberated...etc...he insists that she is a good friend, and that I am paranoid and crazy and jealous for being upset that he wants to continue seeing her. He says that if I don't just "get over it", it will eat me like a cancer. He says that I just don't understand that monogamy is unnatural and that just because he needs to have other relationships, it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. It is my emotional immaturity that is causing me pain. That I am the one who doesn't "get it".
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What is the normal time period for my spouse to "get it", and begin to have empathy and compassion? It has been 7 weeks since D-Day and he is still angry and indignant whenever it comes up. He has become obsessively secretive with his phone, and laptop. Hiding his phone from sight at all times, and hiding his laptop in a lock-box in the basement. He says that OW is only a sexual partner whom he likes very much, but I have been hearing about her since we met. He says She is so much fun, and smart, and sexually liberated...etc...he insists that she is a good friend, and that I am paranoid and crazy and jealous for being upset that he wants to continue seeing her. He says that if I don't just "get over it", it will eat me like a cancer. He says that I just don't understand that monogamy is unnatural and that just because he needs to have other relationships, it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. It is my emotional immaturity that is causing me pain. That I am the one who doesn't "get it".