I am of the feeling that while the betrayed can get past the pain of betrayal and even rebuild trust and have a better marriage, I don't think he/she will ever truly "get over it". The pain and memory may be pushed to the "back burner" or some obscure file in the brain and not really be thought of during the trials of an everyday normalized life post-affair, but the memory will always be there, dormant, and any trigger can bring it back, even years later. I hope I can be proven wrong, especially since I'm only 2 months out from my second Dday, but right now, I can't imagine getting over it completely, ever. Too much damage has been done. I guess that's why they say you must forgive, but not forget. Thank you for your perspective, Samuel. You always make me think.
Does anyone who has been betrayed really "get over it"?
I am of the feeling that while the betrayed can get past the pain of betrayal and even rebuild trust and have a better marriage, I don't think he/she will ever truly "get over it". The pain and memory may be pushed to the "back burner" or some obscure file in the brain and not really be thought of during the trials of an everyday normalized life post-affair, but the memory will always be there, dormant, and any trigger can bring it back, even years later. I hope I can be proven wrong, especially since I'm only 2 months out from my second Dday, but right now, I can't imagine getting over it completely, ever. Too much damage has been done. I guess that's why they say you must forgive, but not forget. Thank you for your perspective, Samuel. You always make me think.