After reading this, I realised that I am still flooding. My partner just pretends that I'm being abusive and we should move on and never discuss what happened. It was an emotional affair when the other man tried to make it physical. She ended it and told me about it but not before they shared a kiss. She claims he groomed her and it was her childhood trauma that made this possible. But after going through what happened it is a cop out and she says she's taking responsibility but actually she is avoiding it. Now she is emotionally distant and honestly it makes me want to walk away. My children are the only reason I have stayed. I do love her buy sometimes when I think about what she did I sincerely hate her and cant look at her. She wants me to act like, it was a long time ago and she tells me to stop living in the past and that my being hurt and angry is me being abusive. She plays the victim and I hate that sooo much. What can I do to move past this and have her take responsibility not just verbally but with actions.
Flooding
After reading this, I realised that I am still flooding. My partner just pretends that I'm being abusive and we should move on and never discuss what happened. It was an emotional affair when the other man tried to make it physical. She ended it and told me about it but not before they shared a kiss. She claims he groomed her and it was her childhood trauma that made this possible. But after going through what happened it is a cop out and she says she's taking responsibility but actually she is avoiding it. Now she is emotionally distant and honestly it makes me want to walk away. My children are the only reason I have stayed. I do love her buy sometimes when I think about what she did I sincerely hate her and cant look at her. She wants me to act like, it was a long time ago and she tells me to stop living in the past and that my being hurt and angry is me being abusive. She plays the victim and I hate that sooo much. What can I do to move past this and have her take responsibility not just verbally but with actions.