This is my husband

Dear Rick
So spot on. My husband was a victim, so self centered, hiding in his secrets, his shame.
I was limping along waiting til our youngest left home.
For me to remain in the marriage, I requested that he attend a weekly men's group with CSAT therapist,
attend 3 SAA meetings a week,
get a sponsor.
This is when the change happened.
He shows empathy. He is not defensive. He is a real human being.
And I finally stopped focusing on my husband, and focused on my recovery. In Harboring Hope.