Infidelity is a choice, not a pity party. I agree with the other comments-- I am a woman who was married to a cold narcissist for 20 years. I was lonely, I was neglected, I put his needs before my own every day. I felt empty, alone, and I felt that something must be wrong with me. We grew apart, but that will happen when a spouse puts another person between your marriage. To say I was devastated to find out "Mr. Faithful" had several affairs, the last culminating in a child, is an understatement. It is two years since "D-Day", and I am still shell-shocked. Despite all that I was missing in my marriage, I remained loyal. Just because a woman (or man) is lonely and feels neglected is no green light for an affair. I hear no violins for the poet. She sounds just like my ex-husband trying to justify what he did.
She's a good writer but her frilly words offer no justification!
Infidelity is a choice, not a pity party. I agree with the other comments-- I am a woman who was married to a cold narcissist for 20 years. I was lonely, I was neglected, I put his needs before my own every day. I felt empty, alone, and I felt that something must be wrong with me. We grew apart, but that will happen when a spouse puts another person between your marriage. To say I was devastated to find out "Mr. Faithful" had several affairs, the last culminating in a child, is an understatement. It is two years since "D-Day", and I am still shell-shocked. Despite all that I was missing in my marriage, I remained loyal. Just because a woman (or man) is lonely and feels neglected is no green light for an affair. I hear no violins for the poet. She sounds just like my ex-husband trying to justify what he did.