It's becoming clear- if real, lasting change is going to happen, it has to be because I want to change, because that's who I want to BE; not because I want you to like or accept me. If that's why one is changing, then you won't be able to be yourself with them, you'll be the changed you, but the old you who does t necessarily want to be that person will remain within, til one day, they find their way out.
One cannot serve two Gods, or put differently, one cannot serve two desires, because they will appreciate one and feel bound by the other.
Change
It's becoming clear- if real, lasting change is going to happen, it has to be because I want to change, because that's who I want to BE; not because I want you to like or accept me. If that's why one is changing, then you won't be able to be yourself with them, you'll be the changed you, but the old you who does t necessarily want to be that person will remain within, til one day, they find their way out.
One cannot serve two Gods, or put differently, one cannot serve two desires, because they will appreciate one and feel bound by the other.