I’m late to this post because it has been awhile since I looked at your blog and now I am asking myself why!! This post is the perfect summation and clarification of how the whole “old marriage is dead, starting fresh with a new one” has felt to me. My husband and I had been married for over 26 years when he was unfaithful and Dday was two weeks before our 27th anniversary. During that time we have had a really good (not perfect) marriage and raised two great kids. The idea of that entire period of my life being “dead” or “over” has never resonated with me. You have expressed my feelings perfectly when I myself did not know how to.
Since stumbling across “Ambivalence:The Crazymaker” at 2 months post-Dday, your blogs have been spot on for me and so exceptionally helpful in my journey over the past 19 months. I will remember to check back here more often from now on
You keep hitting the nail on the head for me, Jen!
I’m late to this post because it has been awhile since I looked at your blog and now I am asking myself why!! This post is the perfect summation and clarification of how the whole “old marriage is dead, starting fresh with a new one” has felt to me. My husband and I had been married for over 26 years when he was unfaithful and Dday was two weeks before our 27th anniversary. During that time we have had a really good (not perfect) marriage and raised two great kids. The idea of that entire period of my life being “dead” or “over” has never resonated with me. You have expressed my feelings perfectly when I myself did not know how to.
Since stumbling across “Ambivalence:The Crazymaker” at 2 months post-Dday, your blogs have been spot on for me and so exceptionally helpful in my journey over the past 19 months. I will remember to check back here more often from now on