thank you. best way i could say it was Samantha was codependent, though she didn't know it and i had no clue. she was using me to provide security and affirmation without looking to herself. when i wasn't perfect or when i wasn't all she wanted and needed she would either attack me or she would pull away from me. she was putting me in the place of either God or Christ or (if you're not a believer) her own differentiation. she was dependent upon me to make her feel good, strong, healthy, etc, etc, but then, in a very weird way she would somewhat chastise me if i wasn't able to be who she wanted. it was very tough to navigate through. she would look to me for affirmation, then if i wasn't able to give what she thought she wanted or needed she would then deal very harshly with me. hope that makes sense to you and provides some insight.
thank you...