Triggers

I'm 4 years out and they still come daily. It is debilitating to think that I may have to live with them for the rest of my days. I think I will always have them, honestly. They are now a part of our relationship, just as his affair will always be a part of our relationship. They go together, obviously. I think a lot might depend upon one's personality/belief system. In my world, infidelity was a deal breaker. A big "Oh, heck no!". Something I would never consider doing myself, and certainly not something I would ever put up with/accept. In saying that, I think that plays a role in the triggers. Perhaps if I could "accept" my partner's infidelity, perhaps the triggers would stop. Having never gone through this before, who knows.