Thank you for thoughts. I apologize for the delayed response.
I don't know if there is an "easier" option between healing alone or in a relationship. They have different challenges but probably have more similarities than differences. I can only speak from the relationship aspect as that is my experience.
You asked why I am writing about the timeframe now. I feel like healing is a continuum like growth and learning, and it takes time to gain perspective. I am now in a place where I can look back and see it more clearly, and I would have appreciated some perspective when I was starting out, so I wrote this for those in that position.
As for the makeup of healing, I think you mention aspects that are probably very true. I agree that we do learn to live with some of the wounds but they diminish over the course of healing. I heard an analogy of hit sauce in the soup - you can't take out the hot sauce but you can add more soup and dilute the impact of the hot sauce. It certainly didn't feel that way at the beginning but it is more true now.
I always appreciate your comments and am glad to hear you are doing well and progressing in your healing.
Hi Raphael :)
Thank you for thoughts. I apologize for the delayed response.
I don't know if there is an "easier" option between healing alone or in a relationship. They have different challenges but probably have more similarities than differences. I can only speak from the relationship aspect as that is my experience.
You asked why I am writing about the timeframe now. I feel like healing is a continuum like growth and learning, and it takes time to gain perspective. I am now in a place where I can look back and see it more clearly, and I would have appreciated some perspective when I was starting out, so I wrote this for those in that position.
As for the makeup of healing, I think you mention aspects that are probably very true. I agree that we do learn to live with some of the wounds but they diminish over the course of healing. I heard an analogy of hit sauce in the soup - you can't take out the hot sauce but you can add more soup and dilute the impact of the hot sauce. It certainly didn't feel that way at the beginning but it is more true now.
I always appreciate your comments and am glad to hear you are doing well and progressing in your healing.