i'm so sorry friend. that sucks for sure. he doesn't want to talk about it as he's ashamed. we don't talk about what makes us feel ashamed or bad about ourselves. he's choosing to focus on his own pain more than you and your trauma. here are some thoughts (series) on shame so you understand it more: https://www.affairrecovery.com/newsletter/founder/infidelity-recovery-understanding-the-paralysis-of-shame I felt the same way early on in terms of the depression. it is life altering. but, one of the best ways to get out of bed is to focus on living for the kids. they need you right now. they need you more than you know and they need you more than even you know. this is a great way to help you cope: love those kids. my therapist and mentor would say a couple things to me after every single phone call and session: 1. go love those kids. 2. go sell a house.
so, Ellie, go love those kids. use them as a great way to get out of bed right now and still pursue life.
ellie...
i'm so sorry friend. that sucks for sure. he doesn't want to talk about it as he's ashamed. we don't talk about what makes us feel ashamed or bad about ourselves. he's choosing to focus on his own pain more than you and your trauma. here are some thoughts (series) on shame so you understand it more: https://www.affairrecovery.com/newsletter/founder/infidelity-recovery-understanding-the-paralysis-of-shame I felt the same way early on in terms of the depression. it is life altering. but, one of the best ways to get out of bed is to focus on living for the kids. they need you right now. they need you more than you know and they need you more than even you know. this is a great way to help you cope: love those kids. my therapist and mentor would say a couple things to me after every single phone call and session: 1. go love those kids. 2. go sell a house.
so, Ellie, go love those kids. use them as a great way to get out of bed right now and still pursue life.