it's a common frustration...

hi sharon, it's common to experience that. my best suggestion would be the ems weekend.  have you considered that?  you can find it here:  https://www.affairrecovery.com/product/ems-weekend   it's the best of both worlds.  therapists, protocol, expert help from survivors and those who have treated it from between 15 and 35 years.  i would consider that.  the frustration you feel is normal and to be expected in trying to heal from this level of devastation.