I am on week 10 of the Harboring Hope class; we were 8 months post D-Day when I found his secret phone. He had re-engaged with his last affair partner at 7 months. I was clear that I would file for divorce if he ever stepped outside the marriage again. But I don't feel it is over, as this time he is completely engaged and doing everything he didn't do the 1st 7 months of recovery. He is not living at home anymore. If I don't go through with the divorce won't it just send the message that he can get away with this? We have a 3 year old and 6 month old, and I feel like he deserves another chance.