My wife had the affair. She has recently decided she wants a divorce. She refused counseling and reconciliation and has even gone as far as telling me "I DONT OWE YOU ANYTHING". I am crushed, confused and beyond hurt. We are separated (not legally) and she is enabled by everyone around her. I do not want divorce, but I am not sure if she will ever come out of her fog. What are my best choices here? Do I file for divorce to protect myself and possibly wake her up? Or is this simply a waiting game for me?