A while back I submitted a question and then discovered your previous response suggesting rapid eye movement therapy. That helped a lot. But I still have an issue. My marriage had been on the rocks since I was pregnant 35 years ago. I was told “pregnant women didn’t do anything for him” way back then (after he violated our relationship). I stayed in the marriage for the child. He’s been pretty secretive for years, but after D-Day several years ago, to stay in the marriage, he tells me how pretty I am and how he loves me. But I’m a bit overweight and in my 60's. There’s not much to look at anymore and he spent the last 35 years ogling 18 year old's. Each time he reaches out to me I just want him to go away.