We are 3 months from D-Day and both in recovery work after my husband's 4th long term affair with the same affair partner. I do believe that he is embracing the recovery work he needs and I am beginning to feel emotionally safe with him again. However, the thought of resuming a sexual relationship with him terrifies me. The affair began when our children were small. I feel very undermined by the passionate nature of their affair over the years whilst I tried to balance working, being a good wife and mother, and caring for our elderly parents. In many ways I feel he's taken what could have been our sex life and given it to his affair partner. If I think about it, my mind is filled with images of them together. Will this ever get better and how can I help myself to recover this part of my marriage?