Q&A How Do I Get over the Fact He Wanted to Walk Out on Us?

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We are on Week 4 of EMS Online. I am struggling. I have been with my husband since I was 15 years old. We have been together over 22 years and have one 11 year old daughter. My husband had his porn at our house about 8 years ago, which I found and he stopped looking at. Then about 5 years ago I found out he went to a bar with a coworker and flirted with a waitress for validation and ego boost. During this course he admitted to going to strip clubs a handful of times and went to bars and checked out women but never talked to any others. My husband had a year and a half emotional affair with a coworker who was younger. He said he would have left me and our daughter if she had feelings for him.. which she didn’t. They flirted and talked inappropriately but he built it up a lot. My husband thinks he might have been addicted to porn/fantasy and it escalated.. He says he checks out women to feel good and he got ego boost with the affair partner. His mother past away when he was 4.. Does this sound like he has an addiction? How do I get over the fact he wanted to walk out on us? How do I know it’s not just our marriage that’s hurting him and making him feel so low? I feel like I don’t meet his needs and never will if he is always looking outside our marriage for validation and doesn’t get that with me.



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