Q&A Should I Get Breast Implants to Please My Husband?

To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.
To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.
Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.
Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.


My husband & I are 17 months past D-day. He had multiple affairs, all physical, no emotional connection. All of his partners had large breasts; I have always been small chested. Previously, I mentioned that I wanted to get implants. After discovery, large breasts became a trigger for me. More so now, as he is MAD that I am now reluctant to get implants and said he’ll feel resentment toward me if I don’t get them bc I’m “only doing that to punish him.” He says he knows it’s my body and *shouldn’t* ask me to do it, but since I’ve “always wanted this”, it’s not fair that I don’t want to now “bc of what he did.” Even worse, I DO actually want an enlargement because it’s difficult to find clothes that fit me well. But now I feel that he has stolen that decision from me. I have done A LOT of recovery work after discovery (personal development courses, Harboring Hope, counseling, and we’re currently in EMSO), and I am very happy with who I am & how my body looks. But clearly, my husband is NOT satisfied with my body. He says he’s committed to recovery and building a new marriage, that his priorities have completely shifted, that his mindset is on love and our family, and that he loves me for who I am…but he’s also telling me that implants are a deal breaker for him. So I’m at a loss.



RL_Media Type: 

What type of affair was it?

Our free Affair Analyzer provides you with insights about your unique situation and gives you a personalized plan of action.
Take the Affair Analyzer

Free Surviving Infidelity Bootcamp

Our experts designed this step-by-step guide to help you survive infidelity. Be intentional with your healing with this free 7-day bootcamp.
I would highly recommend giving this a try.
-D, Texas