Q&A Should I Tell My Co-Worker about Her Husband’s Affair?

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I’m a betrayed wife and my husband and I did EMSO and I did HH. I’m 17 months out from D-Day and our marriage is doing very well. I have a question about telling someone about their husbands affair. My co-worker ,Sue, had an affair with a married man when she was single and then it ended and this man's wife now works with us. Everyone here knows about what Sue did and here this poor woman has no idea about her husband’s affair or that she is working with his AP. I found out about my husband’s affair via an anonymous letter and I hated that people knew for 2 years and I had no clue. I’m not friends with this other woman but used to be ok friends with Sue. My question is, should this woman know about her husband and Sue? I can’t tell her because everyone would make me an outcast as everyone seems to be holding Sue’s secret. Is it ok to let her know anonymously? I know I would want to know the truth for my marriage and the people I work with.



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I respectfully disagree with

I respectfully disagree with Rick's advise. This is representative of the "what she doesn't know won't hurt her" attitude, and I am actually quite shocked that this is the way he feels about this well known secret held by this woman's co-workers.

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