Q&A What Can I Do to Support My Mate in Breaking Contact with the Affair Partner?

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My spouse keeps returning to her affair partner and has indicated that she is unable to break contact with him entirely. She has him blocked on her personal and work cell phones, but he has contacted her at the office, which resulted in them meeting up. She also realized she can call him from there and coordinate a meeting without me knowing. There seem to be too many loopholes for her to stay in touch with him and history has shown that she and he are willing and able to find them. She seems to last a week or two without contact before one of the makes the first move and they hook up again. There’s no way for me to actively prevent this on my end, and I keep letting her return to me to continue trying to work on the marriage. Am I enabling this behavior by letting her return to me to try again? Is there anything I can do to support her in her efforts to break contact with him? I fully believe there is no way for us to work on our marriage if he is in the picture at all and I am not willing to try.



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