My husband and I have been working hard on our marriage over the past 3 months after the disclosure of his affair of 6 months, and have made a lot of positive steps in our recovery. However, as the betrayed spouse, I am now finding it difficult to allow myself to find happiness and joy in life once again without my mind constantly reminding me of what has happened. It’s like the moment I start to feel real joy about anything, something taps me on the shoulder and says “you shouldn’t be feeling happy, you ought to still be miserable!”. And so I live in a constant state of hypervigilance that something else is going to go wrong. After going through such deep trauma - which in the beginning was made so much worse by contact from the AP - I now just want to move on with my life and family. Will this feeling of doom and trauma ever lift so that I’ll eventually be able to experience REAL joy once again, without the memory of this betrayal?