Q&A Will I Ever Again be Truly Comfortable?

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Hi Rick,

I am the betrayed. My husband's sex addiction has expressed itself with multiple affairs covering an 11 year period in our 34 year marriage. His last affair was in 2008, he has been in individual therapy since 2012. Our D-day wasn't until June of last year. Since then we've been in couples counseling, I've been in personal therapy, he continues personal therapy, we've completed the EMSO course and we are in a Married for Life group. I know my husband is changed and he keeps working hard at being a better person.

My question is will I ever feel truly comfortable with him again? I feel like we have some good days and some bad days but I don't trust him even though I know at this point he is safe. In some ways I feel like a zombie just moving forward one day at a time. Lately, the triggers have subsided, I am not obsessed with the APs anymore, but I just don't feel the love and trust and admiration I had for my husband before I learned of the deception and his double life.



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