Q&A How Can I Stop This Obsession?

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My husband’s AP is now engaged to another man only 8 months after D-Day and only after dating the man for 3 months. I am so angry that she gets to move on with her life after trying to destroy mine. I cannot get over this obsession with her and now this relationship she is in. I am just so angry at her and what she has done. Although I know he knows the affair happened, I wonder constantly whether or not he knows the full details of the affair, how long it was, that she was the one who initiated contact with my husband, what she has admitted, how she has blamed my husband, and what lies she has told him. I am so frustrated that I am now bound to silence when she should be exposed but exposure would also hurt my husband and children! Also I know such thoughts are not Christ-like. How can I stop this obsession?



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Might not be the right thing to do but I felt the same way

I posted her pix and texts to my husband on cheaterville.com / reportmyex.com because I feel too that she being single KNOWING HE WAS MARRIED and even texting It to him ... Knowing he had 2 young daughters... Was only fair. I didn't include any of our info but posted her stuff... My husband is mad and wants me to remove it but I refuse

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