Q&A Do You Have Any Words of Wisdom for Me?

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My situation is a little different from those I’ve seen addressed. My husband’s affair was more than 20 years ago and lasted somewhere between 6-8 years. His affair partner ended it as she had a toddler that was becoming too accustomed to seeing my husband at her home. She was afraid of being outed by her 3 year to her own husband. My husband continued to contact his affair partner via phone calls for years after the sexual part was over. He kept the secret until February of this year. Yes, I had suspicions and hinted to him for a confession that never came. Finally just 4 months ago I came straight out and asked. My husband spilled his guts. I know all the gory details I need to know. Of course there may be more I’d prefer to remain unknown. I’ve come to know that 2/3 of my marriage has been a lie. I’m not doing well at all. I don’t know how to deal with this. I am enrolled in Harboring Hope. I see a therapist and I will be attending a forgiveness weekend at my church. I can’t stomach to look at my husband. I feel betrayed and worthless. Do you have any words of wisdom for me?



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