Q&A How Can I Ever Feel Comfortable Being in a Place with My Husband without Searching for Women Whom I Know Fit His Sexual Criteria?

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My husband has a sexual addiction and it has a sexual template of a certain women, how she looks and acts. How can I ever feel comfortable being in a place with him without searching for women whom I know meet his sexual criteria? These women are between the ages of 30-45, attractive, and respond to flirting. How can I trust that the work he has done with addiction and EMS will prevent these triggers even when he is in a place where no one could find out and he could get away with this? I find it so hard to trust him, as he believes he would never do this again. With everything I read about sexual addiction, this starts with a visualization of a woman that triggers a fantasy in his mind that he could have her. He may not even be aware of the road that he started going down in order to pull back. He is so flattered by female attention. I can clearly see this when I compare him with a normal man who can carry on a conversation with women without it having any sexual exploration. I feel very despondent not being able to trust him because even with all the therapy he has had he remains sexually very immature with women. Please give any advice on how to remain faithful and trusting without feeling I’m being disrespected or that I have to keep a constant eye on him.

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