Q&A How Can we Shift Control of the Relationship?

Question

My wife was the unfaithful spouse. We talked for an hour to help her understand that of the two of us, she was the one who had a huge leverage in the relationship now. She couldn't see that. She thought that these things gave me leverage: I could divorce her according to Biblical standards and so forth.

But then I explained that she had already demonstrated a selfishness strong enough to have an affair, a mind devious enough to keep it secret for awh...