Recovery Fundamentals
Start with the basics when first walking the road to recovery. Developing a systematic plan for recovery will enable you to stick to your basic recovery principles even when things get tough.
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1269 Resources
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Text Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain 10/29/2025
Video Q&A How Do We Handle Intense Intrusive Thoughts When Working High-Demand Jobs? 10/22/2025
Video Intrusive Thoughts After the Affair: How to Manage Flooding 10/22/2025
Text Six Types of Affairs: Emotional Affair 10/15/2025
Video Overcoming Anxiety Caused by an Affair 10/08/2025
Video Q&A What Can I Do to Help Myself, and Us, At the One Year Mark? 10/02/2025
Video Q&A What Exactly Do I Grieve and Do I Have to Grieve Before I Can Forgive? 10/02/2025
Video Q&A What Advice Would You Give to a Couple Who Feels Safe Now and for the Future, but Is Struggling with ‘Getting Right’ with past Infidelities and Traumas? 10/02/2025
Video Q&A Is There Anything the Wayward Spouse Can Say or Do That Has Been Effective in Helping the Betrayed Spouse Feel Better? 10/02/2025
Text Overcoming the Barriers to Recommitment 10/01/2025
Video Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation 9/17/2025
Video Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 9/03/2025
Video Are Silence, Avoidance and Frustration Killing Your Recovery? 8/27/2025
Video Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal 8/20/2025
Video Q&A How Can I Prove to My Betrayed Spouse That I Finally ‘Get It’? 8/06/2025
Video Rewriting the Story You Tell 7/30/2025
Video Q&A After a Polygraph Is Done to Confirm the Couple Is at Ground Zero, What Should Each Partner Expect from the Other Going Forward? 7/23/2025
Video When Should You Stop Talking About the Affair? 7/23/2025
Video Q&A Are My Requests for Relapse Prevention Measures Unreasonable? 7/21/2025
Video Q&A How Do I Protect My Own Boundaries While Navigating This Complex Relationship? 7/09/2025
Video Moving from Self-Hatred to Self-Compassion 7/09/2025
Video Q&A Can You Please Give Some Direction on the Various Courses and the Best Way to Go Through Them? 7/02/2025
Video Will I Ever Feel Chosen? 7/02/2025
Video Forgiving Yourself: A Healing Necessity for Both Spouses 6/25/2025
Video Movies & Infidelity: Why Hollywood Seems Obsessed with Sex & Secrets 6/18/2025
Video Q&A Do I Take Action Against the Affair Partner or Just Letting It Go? 6/12/2025
Video The Crucial Role of Disclosure in Healing (Survey) 6/11/2025
Video The Number One Question and How to Answer It 6/04/2025
Video Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Healing or Blending Two Different Attachment Styles? 5/28/2025
Video Q&A Is There Any Hope That My Husband Will Change? 5/28/2025
Video The Brain’s Hidden Wound of Betrayal Trauma 5/28/2025
Video Who I Should (and Shouldn't) Tell About the Affair 5/21/2025
Video How Do I Know I Am Not “Plan B?” 5/14/2025
Video Grappling with Disappointment from an Affair 5/07/2025
Video Do’s & Don’ts of Emotional Flooding 4/30/2025
Video Q&A As the Betrayed, Is It Wise to Seek Closure with the Affair Partner? 4/23/2025
Video Deciding to Stay: Practical Ways to Rebuild Safety 4/23/2025
Video Q&A How Do We Move past This Set-Back in Our Recovery? 4/16/2025
Video Q&A Do You Suggest He Focus On Healing Himself First, Then Our Marriage? 4/09/2025
Video Q&A How Do We Restore the Relationship with Our Adult Children? 4/09/2025
Video Q&A Is It Healthy for Me to Gather Evidence in Order to Move On from This? 4/09/2025
Video The Myth of Greener Grass in Marriage 4/09/2025
Video Lies We Believe About Our Spouse 4/02/2025
Video Q&A How Do I Find a Way to Show Compassion or Empathy When I Find Myself Empty of It in the Moment? 4/01/2025
Video Q&A Can You Shed Light on Pass/Fail Outcomes and Eye-Scan Polygraph Tests? 4/01/2025
Video Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Journaling as a Betrayed Spouse? 3/26/2025
Text Ending An Affair: Throw Away the Key 3/26/2025
Text Revenge: Responding to an Affair 3/19/2025
Video Q&A Can You Give Me Insight on What Therapy Modalities Would Be Best for Me? 3/11/2025
Text Wanting to Be Wanted 3/05/2025

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