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A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair 1273 Resources Type Title Posted Tips for Surviving the Holidays 12/24/2025 Q&A What Online Therapy Recommendations Do You Have for People Outside of the United States? 12/09/2025 Q&A How Do I Stop Feeling Rejected When I Sense That Some of My Husband’s Affection is Something He’s Offering Only to Support Me, Rather Than Something He Genuinely Feels? 12/09/2025 Q&A How Do I Resolve the Conflict Between My Betrayed Husband and My Parents? 12/09/2025 Matt Monteverde's Alumni Story 11/12/2025 Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain 10/29/2025 Q&A How Do We Handle Intense Intrusive Thoughts When Working High-Demand Jobs? 10/22/2025 Intrusive Thoughts After the Affair: How to Manage Flooding 10/22/2025 Six Types of Affairs: Emotional Affair 10/15/2025 Overcoming Anxiety Caused by an Affair 10/08/2025 Q&A What Can I Do to Help Myself, and Us, At the One Year Mark? 10/02/2025 Q&A What Exactly Do I Grieve and Do I Have to Grieve Before I Can Forgive? 10/02/2025 Q&A What Advice Would You Give to a Couple Who Feels Safe Now and for the Future, but Is Struggling with ‘Getting Right’ with past Infidelities and Traumas? 10/02/2025 Q&A Is There Anything the Wayward Spouse Can Say or Do That Has Been Effective in Helping the Betrayed Spouse Feel Better? 10/02/2025 Overcoming the Barriers to Recommitment 10/01/2025 Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation 9/17/2025 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 9/03/2025 Are Silence, Avoidance and Frustration Killing Your Recovery? 8/27/2025 Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal 8/20/2025 Q&A How Can I Prove to My Betrayed Spouse That I Finally ‘Get It’? 8/06/2025 Rewriting the Story You Tell 7/30/2025 Q&A After a Polygraph Is Done to Confirm the Couple Is at Ground Zero, What Should Each Partner Expect from the Other Going Forward? 7/23/2025 When Should You Stop Talking About the Affair? 7/23/2025 Q&A Are My Requests for Relapse Prevention Measures Unreasonable? 7/21/2025 Q&A How Do I Protect My Own Boundaries While Navigating This Complex Relationship? 7/09/2025 Moving from Self-Hatred to Self-Compassion 7/09/2025 Q&A Can You Please Give Some Direction on the Various Courses and the Best Way to Go Through Them? 7/02/2025 Will I Ever Feel Chosen? 7/02/2025 Forgiving Yourself: A Healing Necessity for Both Spouses 6/25/2025 Movies & Infidelity: Why Hollywood Seems Obsessed with Sex & Secrets 6/18/2025 Q&A Do I Take Action Against the Affair Partner or Just Letting It Go? 6/12/2025 The Crucial Role of Disclosure in Healing (Survey) 6/11/2025 The Number One Question and How to Answer It 6/04/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Healing or Blending Two Different Attachment Styles? 5/28/2025 Q&A Is There Any Hope That My Husband Will Change? 5/28/2025 The Brain’s Hidden Wound of Betrayal Trauma 5/28/2025 Who I Should (and Shouldn't) Tell About the Affair 5/21/2025 How Do I Know I Am Not “Plan B?” 5/14/2025 Grappling with Disappointment from an Affair 5/07/2025 Do’s & Don’ts of Emotional Flooding 4/30/2025 Q&A As the Betrayed, Is It Wise to Seek Closure with the Affair Partner? 4/23/2025 Deciding to Stay: Practical Ways to Rebuild Safety 4/23/2025 Q&A How Do We Move past This Set-Back in Our Recovery? 4/16/2025 Q&A Do You Suggest He Focus On Healing Himself First, Then Our Marriage? 4/09/2025 Q&A How Do We Restore the Relationship with Our Adult Children? 4/09/2025 Q&A Is It Healthy for Me to Gather Evidence in Order to Move On from This? 4/09/2025 The Myth of Greener Grass in Marriage 4/09/2025 Lies We Believe About Our Spouse 4/02/2025 Q&A How Do I Find a Way to Show Compassion or Empathy When I Find Myself Empty of It in the Moment? 4/01/2025 Q&A Can You Shed Light on Pass/Fail Outcomes and Eye-Scan Polygraph Tests? 4/01/2025 Pages123456789…next ›last »
