How to Forgive
Everyone’s recovery looks different, but one consistent factor that must occur is forgiveness. Read the articles in this section to understand the process of forgiveness and to find tools for moving forward.
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159 Resources
Type Title Posted
Video Creating Healing Spaces 5/01/2024
Video Q&A What Does Making Restitution Look Like in a Marriage after an Affair? 1/30/2024
Video Q&A How Do I Get over the Fact He Wanted to Walk Out on Us? 1/30/2024
Text Who is the Other Woman? 12/06/2023
Text Forgiving Infidelity: The Gift of Forgiveness 11/07/2023
Text The Fight to Forgive 8/30/2023
Text What Is the Cost of Forgiving Infidelity? 5/10/2023
Video Q&A What If the Only Way I Can Heal Is without Horizontal Forgiveness? 4/12/2023
Text Lies We Believe About Our Spouse 9/21/2022
Text The True Definition of Love and Its Role In Surviving An Affair 9/14/2022
Video Q&A How Do I Forgive Myself for Marrying Someone While Choosing to Essentially Re-Marry Him? 8/03/2022
Text Forgiveness: A Letter to My Younger Self 7/06/2022
Video What Is A Forgiveness Letter? 3/16/2022
Video Q&A Should My Unfaithful Spouse Make a Symbolic Sacrifice to Help My Healing? 11/04/2021
Video Q&A How Should I Answer Him When He Says I Should Forgive Him like the Bible Says to Forgive? 4/29/2021
Video Q&A Why Can't I Forgive One of the Multiple Affairs? 1/20/2021
Video Q&A Must I Be Completely Finished with the Grieving Task before I Can Move to Forgiveness? 11/18/2020
Video Q&A How Can I Take Control of My Life So That I Can Forgive and Heal? 10/22/2020
Video Q&A Is It Important for Me to Actually Tell Him That I Have Forgiven Him? 8/06/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Cope, Accept, and Reconcile with the Reckless Choice My Husband Made? 8/06/2020
Text Practical Suggestions for Forgiveness 7/22/2020
Video Q&A Do You Have Any Suggestions on Forgiving Someone You Can't Work through Things With? 6/19/2020
Video Q&A Is It Possible to Forgive a Person but Not Forgive Their Actions? 6/19/2020
Video Q&A Is It Possible or Even Wise to Forgive My Spouse? 6/03/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Move Forward in Forgiving Myself? 2/20/2020
Video Q&A Will I Ever Be Able to See the Time during the Affair as Something Other Than Tainted or Fake? 2/11/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Get past the Things I Think He Might Have Said to Her? 1/31/2020
Video Q&A How Can I Ever Desire My Mate When I Can't Forget What Happened? 11/22/2019
Text Are You Forgivable? Part 3: Stupid Apologies 11/13/2019
Text Are You Forgivable? Part 2: 7 Myths Undermining Forgiveness 11/06/2019
Text Are You Forgivable? Part 1: Self Assessment 10/30/2019
Video Q&A Can We Ever Get past This If I Know That I Don't Want to Forgive My Mate? 8/06/2019
Video Q&A What Are Your Thoughts about My Behavior? 7/03/2019
Video Q&A Is There a Chance for Forgiveness or Reconciliation? 6/11/2019
Video Q&A How Do I Handle the Injustice of It All? 6/05/2019
Video Q&A Is There a Difference between Just Getting over What Happened and Forgiveness? 5/21/2019
Video Q&A Does Forgiveness Give My Mate a Free Pass? 3/27/2019
Video Q&A How Do I Forgive the Unforgivable? 3/27/2019
Video Q&A Why Am I so Concerned About the Affair Partner? 3/20/2019
Text The Problem with Forgiveness 3/06/2019
Text Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity 1/30/2019
Video Q&A How Do I Forgive Myself for Choosing to Stay? 1/09/2019
Video Q&A Is This Normal or Is This a Sign of Unforgiveness? 12/12/2018
Video Q&A How Do We Navigate Forgiveness with outside Parties? 11/07/2018
Video Q&A How Do We Move past All the Secrets? 10/23/2018
Video Q&A How Do I Forgive What My Mate Has Done? 10/10/2018
Video Q&A How Do We Get Closure? 9/12/2018
Video Q&A What Does Desire for Reconciliation Look Like? 9/12/2018
Video Q&A Is There Hope for Us? 8/01/2018
Video Q&A How Can We Move past Resentments and Heal Our Marriage? 7/16/2018