Q&A How Do I Handle the Injustice of It All?

Something I do not understand is that the betrayed spouse is the one who bears the pain. They get no pleasure whatsoever in this whole deal. They get no great memories. It seems we are forced into a situation like Jesus where He never responded to their taunts and torture. What is it about the inequality? So much of Christianity is the opposite of what we naturally think. Is there some big spiritual lesson and privilege in being the naïve fool? Aside from eventually healing and the benefits of a better-than-before marriage (which we are starting to experience) why is there so much injustice in all of this? I often have a pity party over this. He had to repent but then came forgiveness and then after a lot or a little time, guilt leaves them for the most part and they get to act and feel normal. I have yet to bury my (his) demons, find peace (normalcy) and build myself up yet. I feel the battle for my mind will go on forever.