Recovery Fundamentals Start with the basics when first walking the road to recovery. Developing a systematic plan for recovery will enable you to stick to your basic recovery principles even when things get tough. Must Reads more less How to Survive Infidelity Recovery Timeline Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Q&A How Can I Begin to Heal Our Relationship? The 2 Stages of Pain Why Did My Spouse Cheat? Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity The Problem with Forgiveness Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors The Myth of the Greener Grass: Where Are You Investing? Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) How do you respond to blackmail? Part II How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 We Started Well, but... Telling Your Children After the Affair Doesn’t Always Turn Out As Expected 1152 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A How Do I Handle My Spouse’s Siblings? 3/17/2023 Q&A Do We Have a Chance at Recovery If He Is Unable to Understand How Trauma Can Impact Me? 3/17/2023 Q&A How Do Social Engagement and Our Nervous Systems Work Together? 3/02/2023 Q&A How Can I Convince My Mate That I’m Not Talking to the Affair Partner? 3/02/2023 Q&A What Action Do You Recommend If My Mates Behavior Doesn’t Change? 3/02/2023 Tony & Debbie Mentor Video 2/20/2023 Q&A How Do We Handle Pregnancy So Close to Discovery? 2/17/2023 Q&A How Do I Explain Disassociation and It’s Part in the Affair? 1/26/2023 Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them? 1/11/2023 Sharing Perspectives: How Can My Spouse Feel What I Feel? 1/11/2023 Why is Trusting Again So Hard? 1/04/2023 Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted 12/07/2022 Q&A Is It Productive to Healing and Reconciliation for the Unfaithful to Withhold Sex? 12/06/2022 Q&A How Can We Get Anywhere If a Calm Conversation Can’t Happen about His Recovery or Betrayals? 12/06/2022 Q&A Why Would You Have a Group of People Trying to Recover from Infidelity Being Led by a Single Female Who Is Divorced? 12/06/2022 Pleasing Versus Loving 11/29/2022 Healing After the Affair: Whether or Not to Get Help 11/23/2022 How to survive an affair – How much should I share with my spouse? 11/15/2022 Handling Disappointment After Infidelity 11/08/2022 Q&A Any Advice on How, When & Where It’s Best to Share Our Story? 11/03/2022 The Mystery of Change 11/02/2022 Am I Who They Want? 10/19/2022 Q&A How Can the Unfaithful Work through the Deception Regarding the Infidelity? 10/13/2022 Q&A What Kind of Professional Help Should I Seek? 10/13/2022 Were They Thinking of Me? 10/12/2022 The Proper Use of Boundaries - Creating Space for Healing and Change 10/05/2022 Lies We Believe About Our Spouse 9/21/2022 Q&A What Can We Do Differently? 9/13/2022 Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation 9/07/2022 Q&A How Do We Move Forward When I’m Not Sure He Can Admit to Himself What His Demons Are? 8/26/2022 The Fantasyland of an Affair 8/24/2022 Intrusive Thoughts After the Affair: How to Manage Flooding 8/17/2022 Surviving Infidelity: What Do We Tell the Kids? 8/10/2022 Q&A How Do I Forgive Myself for Marrying Someone While Choosing to Essentially Re-Marry Him? 8/03/2022 Q&A What Could We Do to Slowly Build Back Physical Intimacy? 7/14/2022 What It Takes To Survive an Affair: 3 Must Have Components 7/13/2022 Forgiveness: A Letter to My Younger Self 7/06/2022 Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat 6/29/2022 How Does My Spouse Escape the Neurochemical Process of Limerence? 6/22/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 4 - Not Grieving the Loss 6/15/2022 Q&A How Do My Wife and I Avoid Pretending Normal and Actually Tackle the Issue of Infidelity? 6/14/2022 Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now? 6/14/2022 Q&A Am I Depriving Myself of True Healing in the Long Term If We Are Using This Method to Cope? 6/14/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 3 - Hiding in Denial 6/08/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 5/25/2022 Q&A How Do You Know If You Are Grieving or If You Are Wallowing? 5/24/2022 Q&A How Can I Channel My Own Genuine Positivity and Stop Being Concerned or Insulted by His Behaviors or Attitudes? 5/24/2022 Q&A Where Does a Failed Polygraph Leave Us in Regards to a Timeline in Recovery? 5/24/2022 Q&A Can You Help Us Understand Our Love Language Differences? 5/24/2022 Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior? 5/24/2022 Pages123456789…next ›last »