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How to Survive Infidelity Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal 363 Resources Type Title Posted Do’s & Don’ts of Emotional Flooding 4/30/2025 Q&A Why Do I Get Aroused Imagining the Sexual Acts My Wife Did with Her Affair Partner? 4/16/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Journaling as a Betrayed Spouse? 3/26/2025 Revenge: Responding to an Affair 3/19/2025 Q&A Can You Give Me Insight on What Therapy Modalities Would Be Best for Me? 3/11/2025 Q&A Can the Wayward Spouse Really Have No Triggers? 2/18/2025 Q&A Will the Sadness and Intrusive Thoughts Ever Stop? 2/11/2025 Is My Mate Truly Committed to Recovery? 1/22/2025 Q&A How Do I Feel Safe Knowing That the Worst Pain I Have Ever Felt Could Possibly Happen Again? 12/03/2024 Stop Faking It: A Woman’s View on Sex After Infidelity 11/20/2024 Was the Sex So Much Better in Their Affair? 11/06/2024 Q&A How Do I Shut Down the Intrusive Thoughts of My Husband With the Affair Partners That Have Become Erotic to Me? 9/18/2024 Q&A How Can I Get These Images Out of My Mind and Get back to Just Being With My Husband? 9/18/2024 Q&A How Do I Get Past or Heal From the Hurtful Things My Husband Said About Me to His Affair Partners? 8/20/2024 Q&A Would Viewing Surveillance Footage of My Husband’s Affair Be Helpful? 8/14/2024 Q&A How Do I Stop the Comparisons, Build Confidence, and Get Better at Sex Without Feeling Like I’m Trying to Be Like the Affair Partner? 6/19/2024 Q&A What Is the Best Way to Build Trust Around My Husband’s Actions and My Triggers? 6/13/2024 Signs There Could Be Abusive Behaviors in Your Relationship 5/08/2024 Creating Healing Spaces 5/01/2024 Q&A How Do I Cope With the Resurgence of Past Traumas Triggered by Such Betrayal? 4/25/2024 Q&A How Do You Stop Thinking About and Forgive The Affair Partner? 4/25/2024 Q&A How Do I Get the Affair Partners Out of My Head? 3/19/2024 Regulating Our Stress Response During Recovery 3/13/2024 Dealing with Reminders 2/28/2024 Betrayal Trauma: How We Get Stuck in Trauma Bonds 2/07/2024 Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery 10/04/2023 Q&A How Do I Stop the Triggers and Reminders When Every Day They Are There? 6/29/2023 Q&A Is It Common for Betrayed Spouses to Have Trouble with Depression and Lack of Focus Which Detrimentally Affects Their Work? 6/16/2023 Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain 5/31/2023 Q&A How Do We Handle Workplace Triggers in Recovery? 4/12/2023 Q&A What Is a Realistic Timeline for My Own Recovery with C-PTSD and Childhood Trauma and Being Able to Answer Every Specifically Detailed ‘Why'? 1/11/2023 Q&A How Important Is It to Interrupt Intrusive Thoughts within 3 Seconds? 12/06/2022 Surviving Infidelity: What Do We Tell the Kids? 8/10/2022 Q&A Is This a Healthy Way to Process My Anger? 8/03/2022 Q&A When Will the Constant Feeling That Another Betrayal Is Right around the Corner Fade? 5/24/2022 Q&A How Do I Get past the Uncontrollable Fear of This Happening Again or That It Is Still Happening? 4/06/2022 Q&A When an Intrusive Thought Occurs, How Do I Know the Difference between Suppressing and Ignoring That Thought versus Not Giving It Any Airtime, Capturing It, and Redirecting My Thinking to Something Else? 2/02/2022 Q&A How Do I Help My Betrayed Wife with Her Depression That Has Escalated Dramatically since Discovery? 11/04/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With These Graphics Thoughts? 10/07/2021 Q&A Did I Do the Right Thing by Sharing My Trigger and How Do I Handle This Situation in the Future? 10/07/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With This When I Cannot Reasonably Ask Her to Quit Working nor Can I Check In Frequently to Make Sure It's Not Happening Again? 8/17/2021 Q&A How Can I Pretend Normal Around Family When Even Thoughts of Them Are Triggering and Intrusive? 6/17/2021 Q&A How Do I Get Over the Fact That My Wife Gave Her Affair Partner More Intense and Passionate Sex Than She Has Ever Given Me? 6/16/2021 Q&A How Do I Cast Down My Thoughts of Beating Up My Wife’s Affair Partner? 4/29/2021 Q&A How Do I Go Back to Normal Sexual Behavior with My Spouse When My Spouse Told Me the Affair Partner Was Better Than Me in Bed and Also Had a Bigger Male Anatomy? 4/29/2021 Q&A What Can I or Should I Do With the Thoughts in My Head? 4/13/2021 Q&A What Do You Do If You Have a Trigger and It Makes You Think of a New Detail? 3/25/2021 Q&A How do I Let Go of This Painful Reminder? 3/22/2021 Q&A Why Do I Want to Indulge in Thoughts of the Other Women? 3/09/2021 Q&A How Do We Move on with Long Standing Resentments? 3/09/2021 Pages12345678next ›last »
