For The Hurt Spouse There are many aspects in the recovery of the betrayed spouse that will look very different from the unfaithful spouse. These articles are written specifically for healing and to provide hope and encouragement for the hurt spouse. Must Reads more less 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) Surviving Infidelity Part 1: What Do You Need to Know? Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? The Problem with Forgiveness How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? 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Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors Rebuilding Trust After An Affair 1292 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A How Do We Address and Heal from My Husband’s past Betrayal in Light of My Recent Infidelity? 8/06/2025 Q&A How Can the Unfaithful Spouse Love Me and Have an Affair Partner? 8/06/2025 Q&A Am I Asking Too Much in Regards to Relapse Prevention from My Husband? 8/06/2025 Q&A How Does He Not Have Deep Residual Feelings for the Affair Partner? 7/23/2025 Q&A How Do We Dismantle the Wall Hindering My Wayward Spouse from Expressing Sorrow, Remorse, and Empathy? 7/23/2025 Q&A I Want My Mate to Apologize. Is It Okay to Tell Him the Things He Has Done That Have Hurt Me? 7/21/2025 Q&A Are My Requests for Relapse Prevention Measures Unreasonable? 7/21/2025 Q&A How Do I Protect My Own Boundaries While Navigating This Complex Relationship? 7/09/2025 Q&A What Would Put Me Back Into Integrity as a Betrayed Spouse? 7/02/2025 Q&A Why Is My Husband Blaming Me for His Affair? 7/02/2025 Q&A Am I Wrong for Wanting My Husband to Completely Separate from Anyone Complicit in His Affair? 6/18/2025 Q&A How Can I Forgive the Affair Partner When She Is Still Impacting My Life So Negatively? 6/18/2025 Q&A How Do I Respond If I Feel the Wayward Spouse Doesn’t Want to Be with Me? 6/18/2025 Q&A How Can I Get Past This Feeling of Never Being Her Choice When She Had Freedom to Choose? 6/12/2025 Q&A How Do I Stop Hating the Affair Partner? 5/28/2025 The Brain’s Hidden Wound of Betrayal Trauma 5/28/2025 Who I Should (and Shouldn't) Tell About the Affair 5/21/2025 Q&A How Do I Stop Feeling Such Hatred Towards His Affair Partner? 5/14/2025 Q&A How Can She Support the ED That Came from Her Betrayal, Instead of Waiting for It to Fix Itself? 5/06/2025 Q&A As the Betrayed, Is It Wise to Seek Closure with the Affair Partner? 4/23/2025 Deciding to Stay: Practical Ways to Rebuild Safety 4/23/2025 Q&A Why Do I Get Aroused Imagining the Sexual Acts My Wife Did with Her Affair Partner? 4/16/2025 Q&A Do You Suggest He Focus On Healing Himself First, Then Our Marriage? 4/09/2025 The Myth of Greener Grass in Marriage 4/09/2025 Q&A How Do I Know If My Spouse Really Shut the Door on the Affair Partner? 4/02/2025 Q&A What Do I Look for to Know the Affair Isn’t Still Happening? 4/02/2025 Lies We Believe About Our Spouse 4/02/2025 Q&A How Should I Respond When He Shares Lies with Me, Especially If I Perceive He Is Sugar-Coating the Truth? 4/01/2025 Q&A Can I Forgive My Husband for Abandonment? 4/01/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Journaling as a Betrayed Spouse? 3/26/2025 Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair 3/12/2025 Wanting to Be Wanted 3/05/2025 Am I Who They Want? 2/25/2025 Q&A Why Can’t My Husband See the Affair Partner Through a Negative Lens? 2/25/2025 Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair? 2/25/2025 Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 2/19/2025 Q&A Can the Wayward Spouse Really Have No Triggers? 2/18/2025 Q&A Please Help Me Understand What My Reality Is as We Try to Recover from This. 2/11/2025 Q&A How Do I Tell the Wayward Spouse I Need More Discussion to Heal and Process? 2/11/2025 Q&A Why Has My Spouse Refused to Cut Ties with His High School Sweetheart? 2/04/2025 Q&A Is It Unrealistic to Expect Raw Emotion from My Unfaithful Wife? 2/04/2025 Is My Mate Truly Committed to Recovery? 1/22/2025 Q&A How Do I Find Closure When the Affair Partner Is a Close Family Friend? 1/14/2025 Q&A What Do You Do If the Wayward Spouse Shows No Remorse, Empathy, or Compassion? 1/14/2025 Q&A How Important Is Attunement When Recovering from an Affair? 1/08/2025 Parenting Through Infidelity: A Father/Daughter Perspective 12/26/2024 Tips for Surviving the Holidays 12/18/2024 Q&A How Can I Rebuild Trust When His Words Still Feel Scripted and Devoid of Genuine Empathy? 12/17/2024 Were They Thinking of Me? 12/04/2024 Q&A What If My Husband Doesn’t Want to Change? 12/03/2024 Pages123456789…next ›last »
