My wayward husband had an emotional affair for many years with a coworker. He has also always preferred female friendships over male friends. He is very active cycling, running, skiing etc and likes to have friends to do these things with him.. Some of the activities I can do but there are some I'm not able to join him on due to physical restrictions.. I feel unsafe regarding him doing activities with other women because I feel he is setting himself up for possible relapse, the affair partner is also often at these activity groups too because they shared the same hobbies, or to potentially introduce a new woman that he might attach himself to. We live in a small community where you see the same people in various activity groups. Not doing these activities isn't realistic as this is where he gets a lot of joy out of life but this has been a sensitive spot for me even before I found out about the affair. Is it acceptable for him to participate in groups of only women? Or in groups of mixed men and women? Should he participate if the affair partner ends up being present as well? Am I asking for too much for him to find groups of men he can do these with? He feels that he should be able to participate if it is mixed men and women. He really doesn't see a problem with still having females that he does activities with and was recently invited out cycling with a group of women. He declined because he knew I wouldn't be comfortable with it, but he didn't really see any problem with cycling with a group of women. We started a new activity that we can do together. Admittedly, I had hoped this would fill that desire to do an activity with a friend, his wife, but it hasn't. I don't want to monitor him or prevent him from having a fulfilling life but I also don't want to live feeling unsafe with his friendliness with other women.