Why They Did It The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty. Must Reads more less Telling Your Children After the Affair Doesn’t Always Turn Out As Expected The 2 Stages of Pain Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Rebuilding Trust After An Affair The Myth of the Greener Grass: Where Are You Investing? How do you respond to blackmail? Part II Recovery Timeline Q&A How Can I Begin to Heal Our Relationship? Why Did My Spouse Cheat? The Problem with Forgiveness How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity We Started Well, but... Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity How to Survive Infidelity 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse 355 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A Can My Wife Be In Limerence Twice with the Same Man or Is It Love? 9/12/2023 Q&A How Do We Navigate Seeing the Emotional Part of the Affair Differently? 6/29/2023 Recovering From Infidelity Pain: Are They Lying About ‘Why’? 6/28/2023 Q&A Why Would He Go Back to the Same Person He Thinks Is So Nasty? 6/16/2023 Q&A How Did ADHD and Other Factors Like Depression and Anxiety Contribute to My Affairs? 6/16/2023 Q&A Can You Elaborate More on Type Four Affairs? 6/16/2023 Q&A Is It My Fault That They Did What They Did? 5/02/2023 Q&A Do You Think My Spouse Is Being Honest about Why They Stayed in the Affair for So Long? 4/12/2023 Why People Cheat: Were They Predisposed to Cheat (Part 2) 4/12/2023 Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) 4/05/2023 Q&A Do We Have a Chance at Recovery If He Is Unable to Understand How Trauma Can Impact Me? 3/17/2023 Q&A Why Does He Tell Me I Am the Only Girl and Will Be Faithful When He Continues to See Other Women? 3/17/2023 Q&A Can You Further Explain How to Determine and Address What Could Have Led to My Husband’s Affair? 2/17/2023 How Could You? Part V - The Secrecy Factor 2/15/2023 How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 2/08/2023 How Could You? Part VI - Dehumanization and Blame 2/02/2023 How Could You? Part III: Moral Justification 2/01/2023 Q&A Does This Type of Repeated Behavior Indicate an Addiction or Wanting Both the Marriage and the Affair, or Both? 1/26/2023 How Could You? Part II: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal 1/25/2023 How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity 1/18/2023 Q&A How Do I Explain That My Childhood Trauma Triggered My Actions and Doesn’t Remove My Accountability Even If I Did Disassociate? 1/11/2023 Ever Wonder Why Men Cheat and Why Women Cheat? 12/14/2022 Q&A If He Was Having an Affair to Get Some Sort of Thrill or Feeling from That Person Why Did He Constantly Want My Attention Too? 12/06/2022 Were They Thinking of Me? 10/12/2022 Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation 9/07/2022 Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair 8/31/2022 Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 7/20/2022 Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat 6/29/2022 How Does My Spouse Escape the Neurochemical Process of Limerence? 6/22/2022 Q&A Could It Be Limerance When the Affair Partner Is an Old Flame? 6/14/2022 Q&A Is It Possible There Is a 7th Type of Affair? 5/24/2022 Q&A How Could He Go from One Affair to Another? 4/08/2022 Q&A If My Spouse Felt So Much Guilt and Shame the First Time, Why Did They Do It Again? 3/10/2022 Q&A Why Was It Easy for Him to Be Nice to Everyone but Me, His Wife? 3/10/2022 Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair 2/16/2022 Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair 2/02/2022 Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is? 1/18/2022 Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors 1/12/2022 Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand the Importance of Knowing the ‘Why’ and Also How to Can I Help Him See That It’s Not an Excuse or Blaming Anything? 12/17/2021 Why Did They Cheat? Part 4: The Problem With Addictions 11/03/2021 Why Did They Cheat? Part 3: Do They Have an Addiction? 10/27/2021 Why Did They Cheat? Part 2: Entrapped or Enchanted 10/20/2021 Why Did They Cheat? Part 1:The Role of Oxytocin 10/13/2021 Q&A Why Did My Husband Have Such a Seemingly Lame Affair? 7/13/2021 Q&A Do Men Always Want to Have Sex with Other Women? 7/08/2021 Q&A Why Would He Hire This Particular Escort? 6/16/2021 Q&A Does Alcohol Really Play That Much of a Part in Infidelity? 4/29/2021 Q&A How Could My Wife Be Having an Affair When We Were Trying to Get Pregnant? 4/13/2021 Q&A Was He Hoping to Get Caught in an Effort to Have Me End the Marriage? 3/09/2021 Q&A Could There Really Be Such a Thing as a Midlife Crisis Affair? 3/09/2021 Pages12345678next ›last »