Why They Did It The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty. Must Reads more less Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons How to Survive Infidelity Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal Surviving Infidelity: What Do We Tell the Kids? Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) The Problem with Forgiveness Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain The Power of Small Groups Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Surviving Infidelity Part 1: What Do You Need to Know? Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 374 Resources Type Title Posted Moving from Self-Hatred to Self-Compassion 7/09/2025 How Do I Know I Am Not “Plan B?” 5/14/2025 The Myth of Greener Grass in Marriage 4/09/2025 Q&A How Could He Possibly Call What He Had with the Affair Partner ‘Love'? 3/26/2025 Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair 3/12/2025 Q&A Who Falls in True Love with an Affair Partner? 3/11/2025 Q&A How Much of This Developmental Trauma Contributed to Me Having an Affair in Adulthood? 2/25/2025 Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair? 2/25/2025 Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 2/19/2025 How to Prevent Relapse After Infidelity 12/11/2024 Were They Thinking of Me? 12/04/2024 Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat 10/16/2024 Q&A Did My Wife Need to Justify Her Behavior in Cheating on Me? 9/18/2024 Reclaiming Dignity and Worth as a Woman with Laurie Bryson, M.A. & LPC 8/28/2024 Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors 6/19/2024 Q&A Will I Ever Accept His Reasons for the Affairs? 6/13/2024 2 Things You Must Understand About the Disclosure Process 6/05/2024 A Toxic Mix: Gaslighting and Infidelity 5/15/2024 Q&A How Do I Address Her Readiness to Engage With Someone So Despicable Versus Her Resistance to Reconnect Intimately With Me? 5/07/2024 Q&A How Much Does Alcohol Play a Factor in a One Night Stand? 4/25/2024 Q&A How Do We Know if Our Cheating Spouse Is a Sex Addict, Has a Personality Disorder, or if It Is Something Else? 4/25/2024 The Affair Causing Habit 4/17/2024 The Truth About Lying 3/27/2024 Q&A How Can Someone Love You Even During the Betrayal? 3/19/2024 Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair 2/14/2024 Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair 1/31/2024 Q&A Can My Wife Be In Limerence Twice with the Same Man or Is It Love? 9/12/2023 Q&A How Do We Navigate Seeing the Emotional Part of the Affair Differently? 6/29/2023 Recovering From Infidelity Pain: Are They Lying About ‘Why’? 6/28/2023 Q&A Why Would He Go Back to the Same Person He Thinks Is So Nasty? 6/16/2023 Q&A How Did ADHD and Other Factors Like Depression and Anxiety Contribute to My Affairs? 6/16/2023 Q&A Can You Elaborate More on Type Four Affairs? 6/16/2023 Q&A Is It My Fault That They Did What They Did? 5/02/2023 Q&A Do You Think My Spouse Is Being Honest about Why They Stayed in the Affair for So Long? 4/12/2023 Why People Cheat: Were They Predisposed to Cheat (Part 2) 4/12/2023 Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) 4/05/2023 Q&A Do We Have a Chance at Recovery If He Is Unable to Understand How Trauma Can Impact Me? 3/17/2023 Q&A Why Does He Tell Me I Am the Only Girl and Will Be Faithful When He Continues to See Other Women? 3/17/2023 Q&A Can You Further Explain How to Determine and Address What Could Have Led to My Husband’s Affair? 2/17/2023 How Could You? Part V - The Secrecy Factor 2/15/2023 How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 2/08/2023 How Could You? Part VI - Dehumanization and Blame 2/02/2023 How Could You? Part III: Moral Justification 2/01/2023 Q&A Does This Type of Repeated Behavior Indicate an Addiction or Wanting Both the Marriage and the Affair, or Both? 1/26/2023 How Could You? Part II: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal 1/25/2023 How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity 1/18/2023 Q&A How Do I Explain That My Childhood Trauma Triggered My Actions and Doesn’t Remove My Accountability Even If I Did Disassociate? 1/11/2023 Ever Wonder Why Men Cheat and Why Women Cheat? 12/14/2022 Q&A If He Was Having an Affair to Get Some Sort of Thrill or Feeling from That Person Why Did He Constantly Want My Attention Too? 12/06/2022 Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation 9/07/2022 Pages12345678next ›last »
