Why They Did It The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty. Must Reads more less How do you respond to blackmail? Part II Rebuilding Trust After An Affair How to Survive Infidelity Why Did My Spouse Cheat? Telling Your Children After the Affair Doesn’t Always Turn Out As Expected How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted The Myth of the Greener Grass: Where Are You Investing? Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors Recovery Timeline Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Q&A How Can I Begin to Heal Our Relationship? We Started Well, but... The 2 Stages of Pain The Problem with Forgiveness 342 Resources Type Title Posted How Could You? Part III: Moral Justification 2/01/2023 Q&A Does This Type of Repeated Behavior Indicate an Addiction or Wanting Both the Marriage and the Affair, or Both? 1/26/2023 How Could You? Part II: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal 1/25/2023 How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity 1/18/2023 Q&A How Do I Explain That My Childhood Trauma Triggered My Actions and Doesn’t Remove My Accountability Even If I Did Disassociate? 1/11/2023 Ever Wonder Why Men Cheat and Why Women Cheat? 12/14/2022 Q&A If He Was Having an Affair to Get Some Sort of Thrill or Feeling from That Person Why Did He Constantly Want My Attention Too? 12/06/2022 Were They Thinking of Me? 10/12/2022 Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation 9/07/2022 Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair 8/31/2022 Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 7/20/2022 Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat 6/29/2022 How Does My Spouse Escape the Neurochemical Process of Limerence? 6/22/2022 Q&A Could It Be Limerance When the Affair Partner Is an Old Flame? 6/14/2022 Q&A Is It Possible There Is a 7th Type of Affair? 5/24/2022 Q&A How Could He Go from One Affair to Another? 4/08/2022 Q&A If My Spouse Felt So Much Guilt and Shame the First Time, Why Did They Do It Again? 3/10/2022 Q&A Why Was It Easy for Him to Be Nice to Everyone but Me, His Wife? 3/10/2022 Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair 2/16/2022 Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair 2/02/2022 Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is? 1/18/2022 Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors 1/12/2022 Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand the Importance of Knowing the ‘Why’ and Also How to Can I Help Him See That It’s Not an Excuse or Blaming Anything? 12/17/2021 Why Did They Cheat? Part 4: The Problem With Addictions 11/03/2021 Why Did They Cheat? Part 3: Do They Have an Addiction? 10/27/2021 Why Did They Cheat? Part 2: Entrapped or Enchanted 10/20/2021 Why Did They Cheat? Part 1:The Role of Oxytocin 10/13/2021 Q&A Why Did My Husband Have Such a Seemingly Lame Affair? 7/13/2021 Q&A Do Men Always Want to Have Sex with Other Women? 7/08/2021 Q&A Why Would He Hire This Particular Escort? 6/16/2021 Recovering From Infidelity Pain: Are They Lying About ‘Why’? 6/16/2021 Q&A Does Alcohol Really Play That Much of a Part in Infidelity? 4/29/2021 Q&A How Could My Wife Be Having an Affair When We Were Trying to Get Pregnant? 4/13/2021 Q&A Was He Hoping to Get Caught in an Effort to Have Me End the Marriage? 3/09/2021 Q&A Could There Really Be Such a Thing as a Midlife Crisis Affair? 3/09/2021 Q&A Could Postpartum Depression Lead to an Affair? 3/04/2021 Q&A Is Being Immature or a Pastors Kid a Legitimate Reason for Making This Mistake? 3/04/2021 Q&A Why Do I Still Feel like Its My Fault She Had a Affair? Is This Normal for Betrayed Men? 1/14/2021 Q&A Is It Possible to Delude Oneself into Believing an Affair Wasn’t Emotional as a Means of Self Protection? 1/14/2021 Q&A Did He Really Not Consider Me or His Children? 1/14/2021 Q&A How Can I Know My Mate Didn't Just Prefer Sex With Someone Else? 12/17/2020 Tweeting Or Cheating? Social Media Affairs And What To Do 11/18/2020 Q&A Was This Limerence or Something More? 10/05/2020 Q&A Is It Common for the Wayward Spouse to Not Know 'Why' This Far in Recovery? 9/24/2020 Q&A What Attracts a Younger Man to an Older, Unattractive Woman? 9/24/2020 Q&A Is There a Way to Determine the Difference between an Affair Being Motivated by Revenge as Opposed to the Wayward Spouse Justifying an Affair or Are They One in the Same? 9/22/2020 Q&A How Can Any Person Not Know Why They Have Done Something? 9/02/2020 Q&A How Is It Possible to Compartmentalize the Way My Husband Did? 9/02/2020 Q&A Could His Early Experience Have Played a Part in His Affair and His Attitude Toward Sex Now? 9/02/2020 Q&A If Our Marriage Was So Wonderful, Why Did He Have an Affair? 8/27/2020 Pages1234567next ›last »