Why They Did It
The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty.
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362 Resources
Type Title Posted
Video A Toxic Mix: Gaslighting and Infidelity 5/15/2024
Video Q&A How Do I Address Her Readiness to Engage With Someone So Despicable Versus Her Resistance to Reconnect Intimately With Me? 5/07/2024
Video Q&A How Much Does Alcohol Play a Factor in a One Night Stand? 4/25/2024
Video Q&A How Do We Know if Our Cheating Spouse Is a Sex Addict, Has a Personality Disorder, or if It Is Something Else? 4/25/2024
Video The Affair Causing Habit 4/17/2024
Video The Truth About Lying 3/27/2024
Video Q&A How Can Someone Love You Even During the Betrayal? 3/19/2024
Video Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair 2/14/2024
Text Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair 1/31/2024
Video Q&A Can My Wife Be In Limerence Twice with the Same Man or Is It Love? 9/12/2023
Video Q&A How Do We Navigate Seeing the Emotional Part of the Affair Differently? 6/29/2023
Text Recovering From Infidelity Pain: Are They Lying About ‘Why’? 6/28/2023
Video Q&A Why Would He Go Back to the Same Person He Thinks Is So Nasty? 6/16/2023
Video Q&A How Did ADHD and Other Factors Like Depression and Anxiety Contribute to My Affairs? 6/16/2023
Video Q&A Can You Elaborate More on Type Four Affairs? 6/16/2023
Video Q&A Is It My Fault That They Did What They Did? 5/02/2023
Video Q&A Do You Think My Spouse Is Being Honest about Why They Stayed in the Affair for So Long? 4/12/2023
Text Why People Cheat: Were They Predisposed to Cheat (Part 2) 4/12/2023
Text Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) 4/05/2023
Video Q&A Do We Have a Chance at Recovery If He Is Unable to Understand How Trauma Can Impact Me? 3/17/2023
Video Q&A Why Does He Tell Me I Am the Only Girl and Will Be Faithful When He Continues to See Other Women? 3/17/2023
Video Q&A Can You Further Explain How to Determine and Address What Could Have Led to My Husband’s Affair? 2/17/2023
Text How Could You? Part V - The Secrecy Factor 2/15/2023
Text How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 2/08/2023
Text How Could You? Part VI - Dehumanization and Blame 2/02/2023
Text How Could You? Part III: Moral Justification 2/01/2023
Video Q&A Does This Type of Repeated Behavior Indicate an Addiction or Wanting Both the Marriage and the Affair, or Both? 1/26/2023
Text How Could You? Part II: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal 1/25/2023
Text How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity 1/18/2023
Video Q&A How Do I Explain That My Childhood Trauma Triggered My Actions and Doesn’t Remove My Accountability Even If I Did Disassociate? 1/11/2023
Text Ever Wonder Why Men Cheat and Why Women Cheat? 12/14/2022
Video Q&A If He Was Having an Affair to Get Some Sort of Thrill or Feeling from That Person Why Did He Constantly Want My Attention Too? 12/06/2022
Text Were They Thinking of Me? 10/12/2022
Text Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation 9/07/2022
Text Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair 8/31/2022
Text Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 7/20/2022
Text Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat 6/29/2022
Video How Does My Spouse Escape the Neurochemical Process of Limerence? 6/22/2022
Video Q&A Could It Be Limerance When the Affair Partner Is an Old Flame? 6/14/2022
Video Q&A Is It Possible There Is a 7th Type of Affair? 5/24/2022
Video Q&A How Could He Go from One Affair to Another? 4/08/2022
Video Q&A If My Spouse Felt So Much Guilt and Shame the First Time, Why Did They Do It Again? 3/10/2022
Video Q&A Why Was It Easy for Him to Be Nice to Everyone but Me, His Wife? 3/10/2022
Video Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is? 1/18/2022
Text Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors 1/12/2022
Video Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand the Importance of Knowing the ‘Why’ and Also How to Can I Help Him See That It’s Not an Excuse or Blaming Anything? 12/17/2021
Text Why Did They Cheat? Part 4: The Problem With Addictions 11/03/2021
Text Why Did They Cheat? Part 3: Do They Have an Addiction? 10/27/2021
Text Why Did They Cheat? Part 2: Entrapped or Enchanted 10/20/2021
Text Why Did They Cheat? Part 1:The Role of Oxytocin 10/13/2021