Q&A Why Does He Tell Me I Am the Only Girl and Will Be Faithful When He Continues to See Other Women?

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When my husband asked me to marry him, he was seeing 4 other women. I did not know he was dating other women much less sleeping with them. 5 days before our wedding he brought one of the affair partner's to our home and slept with her in our marital bed. Morning after our wedding another woman called asking about how the wedding went. We leave Texas for me to live in his home in Colorado. I find condoms and lube in the bedside drawer. I asked "why do you need these or are these from your deceased wife”. His response was the boys used them. Well one boy lives in Oregon and the other in Michigan. 1st lie 1st week of marriage. For our entire 19 month marriage, he has been working 4 or 5 women. There is also porn. He never used condoms. He will tell me I am his one and only girl and that he will be faithful then he goes right around within few weeks and hooks up with someone else and/or "special friend". Buys them gifts and lies about gifts given by them. I don't understand why he married me. He says he meant his vows but has been acting like an ass. While we were finalizing wedding vows with pastor he is arranging hook-up. 3 weeks of marriage he is hooking up with someone else. Why does he tell me I am the only girl and will be faithful and just continue to play 3 & 4 woman plus me.



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