All Categories After a betrayal, your mind goes in 90 million directions all at once and you may not even know where to begin. Use the categories in the Recovery Library to discover what areas of recovery resonate with your struggle and find the specific guidance you need. Must Reads more less Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it The Problem with Forgiveness Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery The Power of Small Groups Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision How to Survive Infidelity Surviving Infidelity Part 1: What Do You Need to Know? Rebuilding Trust After An Affair How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? Surviving Infidelity: What Do We Tell the Kids? Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse 4947 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Apologizing to the Affair Partner’s Spouse? 3/26/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Journaling as a Betrayed Spouse? 3/26/2025 Q&A How Could He Possibly Call What He Had with the Affair Partner ‘Love'? 3/26/2025 Ending An Affair: Throw Away the Key 3/26/2025 Revenge: Responding to an Affair 3/19/2025 Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair 3/12/2025 Q&A Can You Give Me Insight on What Therapy Modalities Would Be Best for Me? 3/11/2025 Q&A Do You Recommend We Continue Living Separately During Recovery? 3/11/2025 Q&A Who Falls in True Love with an Affair Partner? 3/11/2025 Wanting to Be Wanted 3/05/2025 Am I Who They Want? 2/25/2025 Q&A How Much of This Developmental Trauma Contributed to Me Having an Affair in Adulthood? 2/25/2025 Q&A Why Can’t My Husband See the Affair Partner Through a Negative Lens? 2/25/2025 Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair? 2/25/2025 Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 2/19/2025 Q&A Can the Wayward Spouse Really Have No Triggers? 2/18/2025 Why the Wayward Spouse Doesn’t Want to Talk About the Affair 2/12/2025 Q&A Please Help Me Understand What My Reality Is as We Try to Recover from This. 2/11/2025 Q&A Will the Sadness and Intrusive Thoughts Ever Stop? 2/11/2025 Q&A How Do I Tell the Wayward Spouse I Need More Discussion to Heal and Process? 2/11/2025 Q&A How Do We Create Safety When My Husband Had an Emotional Affair with a Coworker for Approximately 7 Years? 2/11/2025 What Are Some Practical Steps to Take to Forgive My Spouse? 2/04/2025 Q&A Is It Possible to Have an Emotional Affair for Many Years and Not Be In Limerence? 2/04/2025 Q&A How Do We Protect Ourselves from an Aggressive and Persistent Affair Partner? 2/04/2025 Q&A Why Has My Spouse Refused to Cut Ties with His High School Sweetheart? 2/04/2025 Q&A Why Would the Wayward Spouse Continue to Lie About Plans with the Affair Partner? 2/04/2025 Q&A Is It Unrealistic to Expect Raw Emotion from My Unfaithful Wife? 2/04/2025 How To Survive an Affair: How Much Should I Share with My Spouse? 1/29/2025 Is My Mate Truly Committed to Recovery? 1/22/2025 Destructive Patterns in Communication 1/15/2025 Q&A How Do I Find Closure When the Affair Partner Is a Close Family Friend? 1/14/2025 Q&A What Do You Do If the Wayward Spouse Shows No Remorse, Empathy, or Compassion? 1/14/2025 Q&A How Detailed Should the Disclosure Be for a 7-Year Emotional Affair With a Coworker? 1/08/2025 Q&A Do You Think I Should Reach Out to Affair Partner’s Wife and Disclose the Affair? 1/08/2025 Q&A Is the Connection I Have with My First Love (Not My Husband) Normal? 1/08/2025 Q&A How Important Is Attunement When Recovering from an Affair? 1/08/2025 Emotions Running Wild? Why You Lose Control After Infidelity 1/08/2025 Recovery Tips to Face the New Year 1/01/2025 Parenting Through Infidelity: A Father/Daughter Perspective 12/26/2024 Tips for Surviving the Holidays 12/18/2024 Q&A How Can I Rebuild Trust When His Words Still Feel Scripted and Devoid of Genuine Empathy? 12/17/2024 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Our First Wedding Anniversary After Discovery? 12/17/2024 How to Prevent Relapse After Infidelity 12/11/2024 Were They Thinking of Me? 12/04/2024 Q&A What If My Husband Doesn’t Want to Change? 12/03/2024 Q&A How Do I Feel Safe Knowing That the Worst Pain I Have Ever Felt Could Possibly Happen Again? 12/03/2024 The Fantasyland of an Affair 11/27/2024 Q&A Will She Ever Tell the Truth Without Being Backed Into a Corner? 11/26/2024 Stop Faking It: A Woman’s View on Sex After Infidelity 11/20/2024 Mistakes Families Make After an Affair 11/13/2024 Pages123456789…next ›last »