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A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? 539 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A How Do I Cope With the Resurgence of Past Traumas Triggered by Such Betrayal? 4/25/2024 The Truth About Lying 3/27/2024 Q&A Why Does My Husband Continue to Lie When I’ve Been a Safe Place for Him Since I Returned? 3/19/2024 Regulating Our Stress Response During Recovery 3/13/2024 Q&A What Do I Do with an Unfaithful Spouse Who Will Not Provide Me with Full Disclosure? 2/28/2024 Manifestation of Shame Part 1: The Unfaithful 2/21/2024 Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair 2/14/2024 Q&A If a Person Is Taking Medications and Has Gone Thru 6 Rounds of Chemo before Taking a Polygraph, Could This Give a False Reading? 1/09/2024 Common Mistakes Made When Recovering from Infidelity 12/27/2023 Hope For Healing Excerpt: How Does The Unfaithful Make Amends? 12/12/2023 Q&A Does the Wayward Spouse Have a Right to Ask the Betrayed What Source They Are Using to Find Information about the Affair? 11/28/2023 Q&A How Do I Communicate Love, Compassion, and Empathy during the Discovery Process or Questioning? 11/28/2023 The Betrayed's Reaction: An Excerpt from Harboring Hope 10/18/2023 Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known 10/11/2023 How Do You Deal With Anger After Infidelity? 9/06/2023 Q&A How Do I Show Empathy Towards My Wife after Her Revenge Affair When She Refuses to Give Full Disclosure? 8/15/2023 My Spouse Had an Affair: What Should I Do Now? 8/09/2023 Is Ambivalence Common When Healing from Infidelity? 7/19/2023 How Can You Move Past Ambivalence After Infidelity? 7/19/2023 Stuck? Three Methods to Get Moving in Infidelity Recovery 7/12/2023 Denial and Recovery After an Affair 7/05/2023 Discovery: Why Do I Want to Know? 6/14/2023 Discovery: Processing the Details of the Affair 6/07/2023 Q&A How Do I Create a Coherent Story If the Details from My Mate Are Always Changing? 5/19/2023 Q&A How Does One Find a Reputable and Affordable Polygraph Test Provider? 5/02/2023 Discovery: Part 4 - Goals for the Betrayed 3/29/2023 Discovery: Part 3 - Guidelines for Discovery 3/22/2023 Q&A How Do I Approach This Polygraph without Feeling like My Marriage Is on the Line? 3/17/2023 Discovery: Part 2 - Advice For The Wayward Spouse 3/15/2023 Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery 3/08/2023 Q&A Do You Think There Is an Appropriate Methodology of Trying to Recall Some of This Using Hypnosis? 2/17/2023 Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them? 1/11/2023 Q&A What Can I Do, as the Betrayed, to Try and Get Closure? 1/11/2023 Revenge: Responding to an Affair 1/02/2023 Q&A How Can We Get Anywhere If a Calm Conversation Can’t Happen about His Recovery or Betrayals? 12/06/2022 How to survive an affair – How much should I share with my spouse? 11/15/2022 Q&A Any Advice on How, When & Where It’s Best to Share Our Story? 11/03/2022 Am I Who They Want? 10/19/2022 Q&A What Do I Do If I Don’t Believe My Mate Has Been Completely Honest with Their Full Disclosure? 10/13/2022 Q&A Can I Truly Trust a Polygraph? 6/14/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 5/25/2022 Q&A Why Can’t I Give My Spouse Full Disclosure? 4/20/2022 Q&A What Is the Best Way to Discuss the Questions That Most Wayward Spouses Get from the Betrayed? 4/20/2022 Q&A How Do We Handle Disclosure When My Infidelity Was So Long Ago and I Can’t Remember All the Details? 4/06/2022 Q&A What If the Hurt Spouse Needs More Information than the Wayward Spouse Is Willing to Give? 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Love Addiction 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Emotional Affair 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Wanting the Marriage and the Affair 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Sexual Addiction 4/06/2022 Six Types of Affairs: Fallen in Love 4/06/2022 Pages123456789…next ›last »