Safety in Recovery The hallmark of any healthy recovery is safety. Both spouses have to feel safe in order to rebuild a strong, new marriage from the ashes of the old one. Learn how to make your mate feel safe and why it is so important that you do. Must Reads more less Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) How do you respond to blackmail? Part II How to Survive Infidelity We Started Well, but... The Problem with Forgiveness The 2 Stages of Pain Q&A How Can I Begin to Heal Our Relationship? Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors The Myth of the Greener Grass: Where Are You Investing? Why Did My Spouse Cheat? Telling Your Children After the Affair Doesn’t Always Turn Out As Expected 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Recovery Timeline How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 1025 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A Why Do I Still Respond Physically like I Am Lying When I’m Telling the Truth? 5/19/2023 Q&A Are Any Lasting Feelings for the Affair Partner Permitted? 5/19/2023 Q&A If There Is a Future for Our Marriage, Would You See the Journey to Be Any Different than Normal? 5/19/2023 Q&A Is It Necessary for Him to Be Proactive or Should I Be Happy He’s Doing What I Ask of Him? 4/12/2023 Discovery: Part 3 - Guidelines for Discovery 3/22/2023 Q&A How Do I Handle My Spouse’s Siblings? 3/17/2023 Discovery: Part 2 - Advice For The Wayward Spouse 3/15/2023 Q&A What Action Do You Recommend If My Mates Behavior Doesn’t Change? 3/02/2023 Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them? 1/11/2023 Q&A Are My Boundaries for My Spouse Unreasonable? 1/11/2023 Q&A How Can We Get Anywhere If a Calm Conversation Can’t Happen about His Recovery or Betrayals? 12/06/2022 Q&A How Can My Spouse Work with the Affair Partner and Still Be Okay? 12/06/2022 How to survive an affair – How much should I share with my spouse? 11/15/2022 Q&A Any Advice on How, When & Where It’s Best to Share Our Story? 11/03/2022 Q&A Am I Struggling Because I Still Feel Unsafe in Recovery? 10/13/2022 The True Definition of Love and Its Role In Surviving An Affair 9/14/2022 Q&A Is This an Appropriate Deal-Breaker? 8/26/2022 Q&A How Do I Keep My Boundaries Strong in a Place of Leadership? 7/07/2022 Q&A What Are the Signs I Should Run and Not Bother Wasting My Time or Emotions on Trying to Make My Marriage Work? 7/01/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 4 - Not Grieving the Loss 6/15/2022 Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now? 6/14/2022 Q&A What Do I Do If My Spouse Works with Their Affair Partner? 5/24/2022 Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior? 5/24/2022 Are You Vulnerable to an Affair? Part II: Marital Vulnerability 5/18/2022 Q&A How Do I Continue Supporting Her While Taking Care of My Heart and Mental Health? 4/20/2022 Q&A Is It OK for the Wayward Spouse to Keep in Touch with Affair Partners from the past That Happened Years before Us? 4/20/2022 Romanticism: Don't Believe the Lie 4/13/2022 Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again? 4/08/2022 Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses? 4/06/2022 Q&A How Should I Handle My Spouse Threatening to Harm Me? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Do I Emotionally Connect with Someone Who Treats Me This Way? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Long Should I Accept and Validate His Exaggerated Reactions as a Result of My Previously Reckless Behaviors? 2/17/2022 Q&A Do You Agree It’s Necessary to Re-Establish No Contact? 2/17/2022 Q&A Should a Wayward Spouse Be Allowed to Have Friends of the Opposite Gender? 2/17/2022 Q&A How Can We Set Boundaries If They Keep Being Disregarded and Violated? 12/17/2021 Q&A How Much Should I Allow My Hurt Spouse to Vent and Control Conversations? 11/19/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With This When I Cannot Reasonably Ask Her to Quit Working nor Can I Check In Frequently to Make Sure It's Not Happening Again? 8/17/2021 Q&A How Do I Handle Other Counselor’s ‘Okaying’ My Husband’s Continuation of His Rock-Concert Gigs? 8/17/2021 Q&A Should I Tell the Affair Partner’s Wife about the Affair? 8/17/2021 Q&A How Do My Spouse and I Get On the Same Level When It Comes to Appropriate Communication to His Affair Partner about Their Daughter? 8/02/2021 Q&A Is Location-Sharing and Access to Phones Recommended? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Can I Stop the Feeling That I Constantly Need to Check on My Wayward Spouse for Safety? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Best Do I Ask for This Information So That He Understands the Level of Transparency I Need to Feel Safe? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With the Physical Distance between Me and My Husband during Recovery? 7/13/2021 Q&A When My Mate Floods, Why Do I Get Distressed In Turn? 7/08/2021 Q&A What Are the Best Boundaries to Make When My Husband and I Are Having a Discussion about My Healing and He Starts to Get Really Angry? 6/16/2021 Q&A Should I Be Considering Any Restrictions on Her Access to Our Children If She Continues to Act Out? 6/16/2021 Q&A How Do I Create a Safe Boundary for Myself While Showing Him Grace and Not Reject His Desire to Open up to Me and Reconnect? 6/16/2021 Q&A Are There Any Tips on How to Handle Someone Who Is Not Displaying Remorse, Is Full Of Anger and Pain, And Deeply Depressed? 6/16/2021 Pages123456789…next ›last »
