Safety in Recovery The hallmark of any healthy recovery is safety. Both spouses have to feel safe in order to rebuild a strong, new marriage from the ashes of the old one. Learn how to make your mate feel safe and why it is so important that you do. Must Reads more less 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair Rebuilding Trust After An Affair How to Survive Infidelity Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? 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