Q&A Recovery Library Thousands of questions answered by infidelity expert Rick Reynolds, LCSW and other experts from one trusted source. Gain insights from professionals who not only have specialized in treating infidelity for decades but also have healed from infidelity personally. Must Reads more less Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity The Problem with Forgiveness Surviving Infidelity: What Do We Tell the Kids? Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision Does Time Heal All Wounds? 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Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 3921 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A When Do I Throw in the Towel? 4/23/2025 Q&A As the Betrayed, Is It Wise to Seek Closure with the Affair Partner? 4/23/2025 Q&A How Do We Move past This Set-Back in Our Recovery? 4/16/2025 Q&A Why Do I Get Aroused Imagining the Sexual Acts My Wife Did with Her Affair Partner? 4/16/2025 Q&A How Long Will It Take for Him to Get Over His Feelings Towards Her and the Fantasy of the Affair? 4/09/2025 Q&A Do You Suggest He Focus On Healing Himself First, Then Our Marriage? 4/09/2025 Q&A How Do We Restore the Relationship with Our Adult Children? 4/09/2025 Q&A Is It Healthy for Me to Gather Evidence in Order to Move On from This? 4/09/2025 Q&A Is There a Way to Reconnect or Get Him to Engage Before Throwing 35 Years Away? 4/09/2025 Q&A When My Mate Accuses Me of Being a Narcissist Are They Really Recognizing Traits Within Themselves? 4/09/2025 Q&A When Will the Abusive Language and Name-Calling from the Betrayed Spouse Stop? 4/02/2025 Q&A How Do I Know If My Spouse Really Shut the Door on the Affair Partner? 4/02/2025 Q&A What Do I Look for to Know the Affair Isn’t Still Happening? 4/02/2025 Q&A When Will My Efforts Be Enough for My Spouse? 4/02/2025 Q&A How Should I Respond When He Shares Lies with Me, Especially If I Perceive He Is Sugar-Coating the Truth? 4/01/2025 Q&A How Do I Find a Way to Show Compassion or Empathy When I Find Myself Empty of It in the Moment? 4/01/2025 Q&A Can You Shed Light on Pass/Fail Outcomes and Eye-Scan Polygraph Tests? 4/01/2025 Q&A Can I Forgive My Husband for Abandonment? 4/01/2025 Q&A How Can We Best Deal With This Hurtful Possibility and Begin to Heal from It? 4/01/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Apologizing to the Affair Partner’s Spouse? 3/26/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Journaling as a Betrayed Spouse? 3/26/2025 Q&A How Could He Possibly Call What He Had with the Affair Partner ‘Love'? 3/26/2025 Q&A Can You Give Me Insight on What Therapy Modalities Would Be Best for Me? 3/11/2025 Q&A Do You Recommend We Continue Living Separately During Recovery? 3/11/2025 Q&A Who Falls in True Love with an Affair Partner? 3/11/2025 Q&A How Much of This Developmental Trauma Contributed to Me Having an Affair in Adulthood? 2/25/2025 Q&A Why Can’t My Husband See the Affair Partner Through a Negative Lens? 2/25/2025 Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair? 2/25/2025 Q&A Can the Wayward Spouse Really Have No Triggers? 2/18/2025 Q&A Please Help Me Understand What My Reality Is as We Try to Recover from This. 2/11/2025 Q&A Will the Sadness and Intrusive Thoughts Ever Stop? 2/11/2025 Q&A How Do I Tell the Wayward Spouse I Need More Discussion to Heal and Process? 2/11/2025 Q&A How Do We Create Safety When My Husband Had an Emotional Affair with a Coworker for Approximately 7 Years? 2/11/2025 Q&A Is It Possible to Have an Emotional Affair for Many Years and Not Be In Limerence? 2/04/2025 Q&A How Do We Protect Ourselves from an Aggressive and Persistent Affair Partner? 2/04/2025 Q&A Why Has My Spouse Refused to Cut Ties with His High School Sweetheart? 2/04/2025 Q&A Why Would the Wayward Spouse Continue to Lie About Plans with the Affair Partner? 2/04/2025 Q&A Is It Unrealistic to Expect Raw Emotion from My Unfaithful Wife? 2/04/2025 Q&A How Do I Find Closure When the Affair Partner Is a Close Family Friend? 1/14/2025 Q&A What Do You Do If the Wayward Spouse Shows No Remorse, Empathy, or Compassion? 1/14/2025 Q&A How Detailed Should the Disclosure Be for a 7-Year Emotional Affair With a Coworker? 1/08/2025 Q&A Do You Think I Should Reach Out to Affair Partner’s Wife and Disclose the Affair? 1/08/2025 Q&A Is the Connection I Have with My First Love (Not My Husband) Normal? 1/08/2025 Q&A How Important Is Attunement When Recovering from an Affair? 1/08/2025 Q&A How Can I Rebuild Trust When His Words Still Feel Scripted and Devoid of Genuine Empathy? 12/17/2024 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Our First Wedding Anniversary After Discovery? 12/17/2024 Q&A What If My Husband Doesn’t Want to Change? 12/03/2024 Q&A How Do I Feel Safe Knowing That the Worst Pain I Have Ever Felt Could Possibly Happen Again? 12/03/2024 Q&A Will She Ever Tell the Truth Without Being Backed Into a Corner? 11/26/2024 Q&A How Do I Respond If I Don’t Believe My Spouse? 11/12/2024 Pages123456789…next ›last »