My partner had one-year affair, it was both emotional and sexual. Prior to the affair, he had been actively seeing prostitutes for 10 years. Discovery was about six months ago. I was devastated when he confessed everything to me and the reason was his affair partner got pregnant and he didn't know what to do. Back then he wanted to break up with me, but later he realized he couldn't. So he decided to leave his affair partner and did the abortion. Ever since we went on relationship therapy, we took EMS Online and currently we are following the Married for Life course. It has been very tough as he still misses his affair partner and he told me that he can love 2 women at the same time. He also said to me recently that he haven't seen me making enough progress and he started to lose hope on me. He even voiced out to me that if I get angry with him, he would revisit the prostitutes and see his affair partner again. We had a big fight last night and I made him very upset because I challenged him for having an limerence episode with his affair partner. He was angry and had a panic attack. He went into hyperventilation. I called the doctor, but I had to wait on the line for quite a long time. Meanwhile waiting, he asked me to call his affair partner. I was shocked! It was 1:30am in the middle of the night and his affair partner is not a doctor...what on earth was he thinking?! It seems that he sees his affair partner as a pain killer or a savior that can save him from pain. It was very disturbing for me. I still can't believe that he asked me to call his affair partner in the middle of the night. I want to understand what is really happening with him. I hope to gain some insights.