When answering the question, “Does your wayward spouse ‘get it’?”, my spouse says ‘no’ to this. He states there is no possible way for the wayward spouse to ‘get it’ unless they have the same pain inflicted on them. He says I have no moral fabric, integrity, or values after having learned nothing from multiple affairs. He believes there is no possibility of me ‘getting it’. Can you help me understand how a person that failed miserably can ‘get it’ in a way my spouse would be able to say, ‘Yes, she gets it’.