How I Found My Way Back: An Interview with an Unfaithful Female Spouse

Samuel interviews Melanie, an unfaithful female spouse, about her journey of unfaithfulness and restoration.

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I’m so thankful that you were willing to do this interview with Samuel. Having the opportunity to listen to you farther down the road in your recovery work has been helpful for me working to forgive myself as well as my unfaithful husband. Neither side of the relationship has it “easy” in this craziness of recovery work. I hope that in the future you will continue to share with us your journey going forward.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Over the past several months I have been learning about my own resentment towards my spouse that I have been bottling up for years before my affair. I need someone to help me sift through them, next time I go to my marriage couselor, I am going to bring this up. It's been 6 months since D-Day and I'm slowly healing myself. Most days it doesn't feel like I'm healing. How could I have hurt the person I love most in such a terrible way? I can't believe this person that I have become. I am so thankful for my husband and I hope that our marriage can be full of happiness and love even after going through this.

I know this is supposed to be

I know this is supposed to be specific to female unfaithful but it’s the best summary I’ve heard of everything ANY unfaithful should do. And feel. Thank you! Planning to share with my husband.

I know this is supposed to be

I know this is supposed to be specific to female unfaithful but it’s the best summary I’ve heard of everything ANY unfaithful should do. And feel. Thank you! Planning to share with my husband.

This is the BEST blog by an unfaithful female

Wow, this was a great blog. So accurate from a betrayed male's perspective and a joy to hear from an unfaithful female spouse who is working to heal not only herself, but to be there for her betrayed husband. While many of us didn't get a chance to see our female spouse take this path I want to encourage EVERYONE to listen to this brave spouse. Engaging the process means the world to us betrayed!!

Grateful beyond words

This interview was incredibly helpful. The message at the end, had me choked up with tears. Thank you, for sharing your story; helping women feel they deserve the love their spouse is giving them during this difficult time.

Thank you

Two weeks and 2 days after D day here. I’ve been gobbling up all the info I can from this website. I’m the betrayed spouse yet I can hear so much of myself in this account from the unfaithful spouse. Perhaps because I realize it could have been the other way around for us, so easily. I was not loving toward him in the last several years, I resented him, I did not see him for his truly fine qualities. I was unfaithful without there being an object for my unfaithfulness...perhaps I was my own affair partner as I loved my own company the best. We are both committed to make a new and better marriage. Trust has been broken, so that’s the hard part. But I forgive him and I am learning to forgive myself for my own lack of loving actions toward him. No excuse here for either of us.
We both want the past to remain in the past as we look to the future. Nothing good to look back on but plenty of hope moving forward.

thank you for posting....

so encouraged by your outlook.  thank you for posting and watching my friend.